Male vs Female cats

[em1209]

I asked this one a month or so ago when I was choosing, sorry, being chosen by my babies  .

I've only had females before, so was a bit wary of getting a male. My 2 furkins back at my parents, who are both female, are quite aloof now. They used to love each other, but now boof each other round the head and hiss when they have to walk past each other! I'm sure if it came to it though they would stick up for each other. Teasel used to really love me and loved having cuddles, but now she's a right snooty miss  . It was actually since I moved out of home, she has never forgiven me! She is very loving with my mum though and purrs to her hearts content. My Auntie had 2 males and she would definitely recommend males over females as she seemed to think they were more friendly to humans and less territorial in a way.

But as others have said, I think it all depends on the cat.

[Desley (booktigger)]

I have only owned one male cat, and he was the best of the lot, all the females have been temperamental, only one has been really affectionate and constantly sat with you. But, it could be cos I adopt them as oldies and they have their ways. Foster wise I have had both affectionate males and females, but the worst ones have probably been female!!

[Gillian Harvey]

I've got 6 males and 5 females - I've got some soppy males and equally soppy females, I've also got some stroppy males and equally stroppy females! - love all their different characters, don't think it matters whether male or female.

[Sabrina (Auferstehen)]

I've mostly had female cats (not by choice, they picked me). And one male cat.

The females have mostly been very lovey and will come up to me and really show that they enjoy fuss. My Penguin (our big boy - he is huge) adores my husband.

Sure he'll come up to me for fuss but he'd rather have my husband.

Think it depends on the cat

[Ela]

When people ring me for a cat, I would day about 80%-90% initially ask for a female. I always say, just for my own information can I ask you why, one or two say Oh! I have only had females but the majority say females are more loving and they don’t spray. Of course I am sure most of you know my answer to that. I have just as many females who have sprayed and also just as many males if not more that are affectionate. Usually the caller then believes what I say thankfully.

I personally don’t think sex matters it is the nature of the cat. I have over the years had many of the ‘they who must be obeyed type’ of both sexes and many the most affectionate little ones you could wish for of both sexes. I think it depends on its heritage and also how it is treated even before it has left its mum. I do know that teasing your pet, if only in what you may consider play is often the start of the pet turning the kitten into an aggressive pet even if it i only putting your fist up to a kitten and pulling it away. When a kitten it tickles but as it becomes older it hurts and not funny any more. Then owners want rid of the cat because it scratches.

[Bazsmum]

I like the female's attitude  , also the male's temprement..... have no pref but agree there is a difference 

[Pinkbear (Julie)]

I've had a fair mixture of both. I've noticed males are easy to win round and often turn into soppy lap cats. Females can be affectionate, but usually on their terms. Tilly will come for a 'lean' against you, and purrs and loves to be stroked but point blank refused to be picked up and will only sit on my daughter's lap - not mine. 

We've had the Tortie thing recently...  I think it was discovered that torties can be really friendly but when they are of an antisocial type, they are at the extreme end of the scale. 

[Susanne (urbantigers)]

I've only had males.  I do think that on average males are a bit more even tempered and chilled out. 

[CurlyCatz]

My preference is for males.

[blackcat]

I have had amazingly affectionate females and males. My one torti (who was a lovely calico cat called Tabitha Jane) was the sweetest natured cat with people but she did have a bit of a mean streak. Where we lived a road ran along the front of the property. You would never see Tabitha out the front of the house unless a new arrival was on its first outing. Then she would start a game of chasings with the new cat and really wind it up so it was chasing her full tilt. She would then run right to the edge of the road and then stop so the other cat over-shot and ran out onto the road . Clearly she knew the road was a dangerous place and was inviting them to their doom. Sadly for her, the road was not a busy one so the new arrival always survived the experiment. But it was interesting to watch how she tried to rid herself of rivals ..........

[ccmacey]

I couldn't really say, I suppose its the way we see them. Some people may have only male or only female.

I have a male and he is really loving, on his terms and he is ok with the rest of my cats. Where as my female is really loving with people and she beats her bro's up, she only really gets on with one of them as they are like twins and she used to suckle him, she can be really catty with my other two for no reason.

I said to the vet yesterday about a tortie cat braving my cats for food and she said "its because shes a tortie". Personally I think its just rhyming slang, naughty tortie. 

[Gwen]

I have had four female cats and they have been somewhat more "offish" than the male cats I have had (had in all through my life 5 male cats).

Modlen and Pwt were the kind of cats who never really wanted fuss,they wanted to do their own thing and if they ever wanted to be held we knew they were ill or something.

Harley and Yasmin were the kind of cats who turned agressive if they had enough fuss,they'd all of a sudden claw you with no reason. 

Our male cats have been a lot more close to us and loving,(I know Grwndi bites now and then but he's still a very loving puddy cat).  So is it me or are male cats closer to us than female cats are?

Also are tortoise-shell cats more agressive than other coloured cats and why?