I took her to the new vets today and she thought the situation was quite bad - She suggested we wait until Friday where I can either take her home or will have to put her to sleep.
I think it's honestly too soon for my vet to be writing her off - nerve damage takes a long time to heal and I want to give her a chance. Apparently she has no anal tone and according to some website she has a 50/50 chance of recovering after a 6 month period. She doesn't need an operation on her pelvis and requires cage rest only, her jaw is fractured and will need surgery eventually however I think they will put a wire in it for now. I found out that actually she hasn't eaten anything herself but she's been very eager to - seems like her jaw is just making it too difficult, so hopefully when they put the wire in she will be eating by herself. My previous vet is convinced that she will start eating when they put a wire in, and he thinks it will benefit her to come home, and he's heard of cats in her shape recovering so he was very encouraging.
My question more than anything is: after the 6 month period, if she doesn't regain her bladder and bowel faculties, but is still happy, should I still put her to sleep? Will it really give her a poor quality of life if she cannot do these functions herself.
It's such a tough situation and I pray that she will get better. Has anybody had a cat that has had such a poor prognosis and similar issues with bladder and bowel recovering? I really need to hear some encouraging news. She is so young, and was such a happy cat with a wonderful temperament before the accident. She also so pleased to see us today - I think it would really benefit her to come home. It will be so, so cruel and unfair if she can't recover from this.