That sounds like an extreme reaction to me. Then again maybe Im being niave.
Did you say you cant tablet Fifi? and she wont eat wet? Will she eat treats? Long shot I know but my friends cat who was shall we say difficult she got those webbox sticks and actually rolled them out thin, put the powder in and got tablets in that way.
I know with Amber she got given metacam (?) which made her sick so has to have injections now but in general we can cope with cystease, feliway, me trying to keep calm and not upset her (not easy as Im not well at the moment so she had brekkie at 11am this morning)
I do feel for you both as I know that when I get upset, Amber gets ill and I feel guilty and to be honest kind of annoyed with it all.
Is she an only cat I cant remember?
Amber moved in after Mogs but when Mogs died there was no way she would let another cat in. In fact when Mogs was ill Amber didnt want her to come back in from the vets. Shes very much an only cat, and only person cat and a no visitors allowed cat. Its hard but its what suits her so I have to go along with it.
to you both