Hello everyone I’m Lala pur-parent to Nina(Persian) who’s 3 yrs and 6 months, and Keizar(ragdoll) who’s 2.
I seriously don’t know where to start..ok. I found Nina in a dodgy pet shop outside the UK, she was the runt of the litter and barely mobile, when I picked her up already in love with her the pet owner advised me to buy the other one because this one seems to be dying, she was my baby, now I know what buying from pet shops is and how bad and encouraging to the monstrosity of pet trade, but I almost had no choice she was my baby—from pet shop to vet and the journey began in her slow but sure recovery, I worked in that country with the equivalent of RSPCA as a surrogate mother to orphaned kittens, and she would adopt the kittens though she was a kitten herself so she was almost never without a play mate, but we had to come home from that country and I realize it was stressful for her, then lived in a house for 6 months in which she had a major set-back she was about a year and a half where she had to stay in pet hospital for 2 days, now mind you after that event she became very prone to stress and developed a genuine dislike to men…after her recovery I felt she might be lonely and needed a playmate. When Keizar came along she hissed and puffed for less than a day, and then cautiously she started to play with him. We then moved to another house and lived there very happily for a year and a half, before a major financial disability which forced me to live with my sister. Now my sister had two 5 month old kittens, and of course I moved in with my babies and had then stay in the room for the first few days so we can calmly and slowly introduce them to one another , the second day by mistake Nina ran out of the room and chased one of my sisters kittens (the younger and prone to stress herself) and it was a huge fright for the poor kitten. We knew that it would be a slower than we thought procedure, but unfortunately and most sadly within the first week Nina ran out of the room and chased the poor kitten, my sister lives in the 8th floor and her balcony wasn’t secured and the kitten fell leaving us in a most horrendous state. This happened a month ago and we are still horribly affected. We secured the balcony now, but I personally am mentally paralyzed in figuring how to handle what should be done. Understandably my sister is grieving and has bitter feeling about Nina, and can-not trust her to not harm the other kitten. I am torn between my sisters grief and for Nina and Keizars confined space (they are with me in my room for most of the day, when they are out of the room the kitten has to be behind a closed door till they get back into my room, and vice versa. I talked to my vet and he prescribed zylkene for Nina, which she is on at the moment. And advised me to just let them be, but my sister is not comfortable with this and to be honest I’m not either. Keizar has no problem with the kitten bless his heart, and tried to engage her with how friendly he is, rolls on his back and purrs to her..I know they will be friends within the week, but what about Nina? Please advise me kind people I’m at my wits end. 2 days ago Nina and the kitten were in the same room and yes Nina did chase the kitten but the kitten held her ground and there was some hissing and fighting for less than seconds before I picked Nina up, but within those few seconds my sister was screaming Nina I’ll kill you, I understand how she feels. Today I leashed Nina (shes sort of comfortable with it) and my sister held her kitten and I let Nina see her for a few minutes before my nerves gave in and I took her back to the room, because I just know it’s not right to restrict cats when they are stressed and then both Nina and the kitten were stressed. I know many of you will say give Nina up for adoption where she will have less stress and a better life, but trust me it’s exactly like telling a mother to give up her child. Parting with Nina is not an option simply because I can’t live without her. She doesn’t trust anyone but me, and shes not the friendly cat who allows whoever to touch her to be close to her. Please advice as to how we should introduce them to one another, how can we fix this? I seriously need the help of the experts here, who know how it is and what to do. Thank you sooooooooo much for creating this place where I can cry my heart out without having people laugh at me.
