Sorry I didn't mean to come across as shouting at you Lindsey I'm just really cross at the situation. It does seem very deliberate on your sisters behalf though as it is obvious that if you leave a female with a 10 month old unneutered male she will get pregnant at some point and if your sister carries on 'being worried' about the anaesthetic poor Ruby will be constantly pregnant! 
Do you think your sister would go and speak to the vet to be reassured about Ruby having an anaesthetic?
Do you know what Azzy's pedigree name is by any chance?
When is your sister taking Ruby to the vet? Advise her to have an ultrasound done if possible to confirm if Ruby is or is not pregnant as vets can get it wrong just by palpating a cat.
Thats ok
It does seem very deliberate, but I think her OH had a hand in it too (Ruby is more his cat) The way he is acting at the prospect of her being pregnant is like hes been told hes going to be a dad himself! The way my sister has acted through all of this has been that she doesn't want to deal with the issue (I have never got a straight answer out of her regarding this issue) Its like she almost just wanted to pretend it wasn't going to happen but actually wanted it to.....if that makes sense?
I found out about the possible pregnancy only yesterday and I said to her, 'If she is pregnant, are you going to get her spayed after the birth' and I actually got a 'Oh yes definatley'. Which leads me to believe she wanted her to have one litter before she got her spayed.
Theres no way she would let her have litter after litter, I'm pretty certain of that. I don't know if I believe the story about the worrying about anaesthetic thing anymore, it may be a half truth - as she knows how strongly I feel about breeding in general. As shes only been putting off the inevitable because she knows shes got to get them neutered eventually.
I don't know Azzy's pedigree name but he came from my cousin
My sister's OH will be taking Ruby to the vets sometime this week hopefully - I will advise an ultrasound.
while I don't think anyone was attacking Lindsey personally, a post like this really can only have one kind of response.
It really did feel that way though
& I'm not being rude or trying to make things worse but I never intended this thread to cause so much uproar, I wish i'd never started it now.
I remember Lindsey posting before about this and if I could have bet this would have happened I would. Not your fault Lindsey - What a shame some people are allowed animals tho! 
I know it was inevitable, I can't say I'm surprised. I would just like to point out that my sister may be being selfish, irresponsible and somewhat ignorant, but shes not a bad person and apart from not getting them neutered, Ruby and Azzy are very well looked after and much loved cats.
Lindsey, having had friends in the past be really slack with neutering and spaying I can completely sympathise with your frustration. (One housemate I had years ago got a kitten and spent most of her time at her boyfriends.....the kitten got neutered while she wasn't at home. I paid for it, and ensured the little guy wasn't fed before and nursed after. I cried when she eventually took him to her mums because her "mum had decided she wants a cat." 
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Talk to your sister about how many animals DON'T have bad reactions to anaesthetic. Explain to her that she can look up statistics; and tell her to check out the rescue statistics too - even for pedigrees.
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. 
Thanks, you've made me feel a bit better.
I am going to pass on most of the advice offered but If I basically 'attack' her, its not going to help because she will just end up ignoring me further.
Sorry for the really long reply
