Thanks everyone. I'm trying not to think of her at the vet. I told Dennis that I'm prety sure they give them a light sedative so they don't get stressed?
Anyway, there is a flat upstairs to the practice and not sure if the duty vet stays up there or one of the VNs. What makes it more worrying is my friends cat, Kev, died while at the vets on during the night while having fluids. He was 17 though.
It is hard discussing it with OH though as he asks questions but when then says I am depressing so I really have to pick my words carefully. I have made it clear that although fluids etc are helping, they are no cure and he will have to get used to the idea of making a decision at some point.