I haven't updated this thread for a while, we have had a good couple of days, where rather than just sitting tolerating fuss, she has been really enjoying it, purring, kneading, dribbling - even nibbled my finger last night!! She has also learnt about pushing against my hand for some more, or if she wants a different part touching. She is reluctant at the beginning every day, but less and less. I did try and stop one of her dens last night, as it is hte most enclosed, she did go in the more open one this morning and we had a much better fuss session, but madam figured out how I had blocked it and soon sorted that, so will do a more permanent method when she is out of it, as she is more responsive in the bigger den. I did take Sam in this morning, so she was watching him on my knee enjoying fusses, and actually chirruped and tried to come out, but then he hissed and growled, which I didn't expect as he is normally good in the house. She clearly will be fine being rehomed with other cats.