Topic: SAFFRON AGAIN URGENT HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!! (Read 48375 times)

Millys Mum · « **Reply #308 on:** June 22, 2009, 19:39:46 PM »

Quote from: JackSpratt on June 22, 2009, 10:32:58 AM

CC, sadly I think it becomes harder for the fosterers to genuinely understand that the person handing a cat over might not want to. The more jaded they become the more hard faced towards "the public." (Sorry to any fosterers, just what I've observed with people I know.)

And with that outlook they may not want strangers comming into the house

It doesnt help how your feeling but maybe in a few days it will make more sense

Wibblechick · « **Reply #307 on:** June 22, 2009, 12:05:02 PM »

Oh, dear!! Thats really not very good, is it

Years ago I used to foster and often people would turn up with their cats toys, favourite food, blankets etc. I always used to make notes .... I wanted each new "guest" to be as happy as possible and felt sorry for the people having to make the decision to re-home thir cat. I think so often there is an unknow "human" side to why a cat is re-homed. And a cuppa and a chat to ease the "goodbye" process doesnt take much ....

That said, we did sometimes meet the complete

.s , too

I still thought it worth being polite to them, though (even if I said horrible things about them in private later

)

Bazsmum · « **Reply #306 on:** June 22, 2009, 11:27:45 AM »

Quote from: JackSpratt on June 22, 2009, 10:32:58 AM

CC, sadly I think it becomes harder for the fosterers to genuinely understand that the person handing a cat over might not want to. The more jaded they become the more hard faced towards "the public." (Sorry to any fosterers, just what I've observed with people I know.)

Despite calling Saffron "the cat" I'm sure she'll get the best care and a good home. I agree with Mark, though - I would call and complain about the womans attitude towards you. Hope you're OK.

I think I can understand how they must feel! Just goes to show that some cases really are genuine!

Janeyk · « **Reply #305 on:** June 22, 2009, 10:57:06 AM »

CC

JackSpratt · « **Reply #304 on:** June 22, 2009, 10:32:58 AM »

CC, sadly I think it becomes harder for the fosterers to genuinely understand that the person handing a cat over might not want to. The more jaded they become the more hard faced towards "the public." (Sorry to any fosterers, just what I've observed with people I know.)

Despite calling Saffron "the cat" I'm sure she'll get the best care and a good home. I agree with Mark, though - I would call and complain about the womans attitude towards you. Hope you're OK.

Dawn F · « **Reply #303 on:** June 22, 2009, 09:18:54 AM »

hope you are feeling a bit better cc

Bazsmum · « **Reply #302 on:** June 22, 2009, 09:14:30 AM »

Desley (booktigger) · « **Reply #301 on:** June 22, 2009, 07:43:29 AM »

She might have just thought it was better for everyone CC, you would be amazed at how many people can drop cats off they have had for a while with nothing and not want to say goodbye. Of course you will miss her, but she will soon be in a new home

Mark · « **Reply #300 on:** June 22, 2009, 07:40:26 AM »

I think that is very tactless of her and I would contact your branch or even head office to complain. Some people are clueless when it comes to dealing with other people. It sounds like she treated you like you were someone who was dumping their cat

- I would definitely speak to the branch again. Although people volunteer, they should still behave in a sensitive manner. Don't let it get to you CC

CC & The Pussycat Guys & Dolls · « **Reply #299 on:** June 22, 2009, 00:20:33 AM »

Saffron has gone to the CP today

Im not to happy the way things worked out

I took her over- asked the foster to hold Saffie- in the box, while I went to the car to get her things- bed, food ect. On my return to the house the foster had taken Saffie inside and was coming out with an empty box, She didn't even give me time to say goodbye to her

Im very annoyed over that

Then I was telling the foster what had been happening with Saffie- why she has a sore on her neck etc- all the while I was kept on the doorstep with the foster looking at me like would you leave already

She didn't even ask which food she likes or why was the reason I took her there- I didn't get a chance to say she was calming down with the others so maybe in time she would be ok with other cats

So all in all Im very upset at the way this was handled- me stood outside on the doorstep- I expected to go in and tell her a bit about Saffron. And am missing the little girl already

The foster even tried to refuse the bag of food for her- saying you have your own cats dont you, to which I said yes but I bought this for Saffron

And she kept calling her "the cat" Saffron has a blooming name, stupid woman!!!!

Im actually furious over this

Desley (booktigger) · « **Reply #298 on:** June 21, 2009, 10:14:09 AM »

CC, if you are going to advertise them yourself, you need to ring the vet tomorrow and book her in for spaying so she is done before anyone shows an interest in her. I have always noticed a difference in females within a few days of being spayed, so you never know, she might then be fine with the other cats once her hormones have stopped raging round.

CC & The Pussycat Guys & Dolls · « **Reply #297 on:** June 20, 2009, 21:37:40 PM »

Have done Jack

Yes although I cant keep them here I would like to be able to keep up with them. Any new owners will not be disappointed!!!

JackSpratt · « **Reply #296 on:** June 20, 2009, 21:10:25 PM »

CC, put the details for both of them on here. It won't hurt, and you'd more than likely feel happier knowing a Purrs cat ~~slave~~ person has taken them on if anyone can.

CC & The Pussycat Guys & Dolls · « **Reply #295 on:** June 20, 2009, 21:06:56 PM »

She's still here- I phoned the foster yesterday saying I couldnt take her untill today could they phone me back if thats ok- and had no phone call

And I dont want to take her now- she had a nose sniff with Ted and it was all very cool and calm

Then theres the problem of Oliver, his spraying is getting worse, which means he's more stressed

He did stop doing this but has started again now Saffie is here

Do you think I should try to rehome him through here? I know his spraying would stop if he lived with less cats, he's a very sociable cat and likes others- just too many here for him to take, and he cant live with Saffies agression.

He's 11 but you would think he was a kittne the way he plays lazer

Maybe even if he was found a home with an older cat that would be good for him, he gets on very well with my little Ollie

Just thought no matter how much Ive fallen in love with Saffie or even the little steps she is taking- nose sniffing with Ted, Harry is petrified of her and spends most of his time not at home now. So she still has to go

Stuart · « **Reply #294 on:** June 19, 2009, 20:39:15 PM »

west0405 · « **Reply #293 on:** June 19, 2009, 17:27:45 PM »

to you again CC x x x

JackSpratt · « **Reply #292 on:** June 19, 2009, 11:03:05 AM »

Cc, Saffy will never forget the kindness you did her. Seriously, don't think you've failed her in any way by letting her go to the CP. She'll have a new home in no time where there's less cats to bully!

As for Oliver, PM me your location and I'll ask other rescue workers I know if they can think of anywhere that fosters in that area who'd be willing to take Oliver on.

CC & The Pussycat Guys & Dolls · « **Reply #291 on:** June 19, 2009, 10:53:26 AM »

Yes it was the manager who I spoke to first of all- a foster phoned me yesterday and it was her that said to bring Oliver too- then had a phone call back from manager saying that about Oliver

I slept with Saffron last night and we had a lovely cuddle

I have to take her over by 1 today

Millys Mum · « **Reply #290 on:** June 19, 2009, 10:22:44 AM »

CC if they are that thick to not understand spraying problems then your better off finding him a space somewhere else with people who know how to work around problems

If this branch are the only ones in your area do you have any idea who you spoke to in the first place?

JackSpratt · « **Reply #289 on:** June 19, 2009, 09:52:43 AM »

Or asking an alternate smaller rescue if they could put Oliver on their sites? I know you'll want to care for him as long as possible.

Desley (booktigger) · « **Reply #288 on:** June 19, 2009, 07:32:50 AM »

i am sorry to hear they have changed their mind with Oliver, and you are probably right with his spraying, i have had similar fosters and once they have been rehomed they have been fine. IT might be worth talking to your vet about something to help his spraying if CP wont help.

JackSpratt · « **Reply #287 on:** June 18, 2009, 23:25:48 PM »

I thought they said they'd take both Oliver and Saffy? What's going on - have they changed their mind about him?

CC & The Pussycat Guys & Dolls · « **Reply #286 on:** June 18, 2009, 23:04:45 PM »

They cant take Oliver, he's unhomeable due to his spraying, nobody wants a cat that sprays in their house- this is what I was told from the cp lady

Even tho I explained I think hes spraying as he needs to be in an only cat home

I feel I have been talked down to by this lady like Im just another off loader, that hurts

Millys Mum · « **Reply #285 on:** June 18, 2009, 19:09:58 PM »

Your doing the best thing by both of them CC its not fair to keep cats where they arent happy, and spraying is a good indication of that. Be proud of yourself for helping them in their hour of need, without you their futures wouldnt be as rosy

Daisymac · « **Reply #284 on:** June 18, 2009, 18:52:39 PM »

Oh bless you, you have really had a tough time lately, hope things get a little easier for you

JackSpratt · « **Reply #283 on:** June 18, 2009, 18:04:22 PM »

CC, to me a cat that sprays is a cat that feels like it needs to define it's territory really obviously. In my honest opinion, I think Oliver needs to share his home with less cats. Although it might take him longer, someone will fall in love with him. I honestly think you're doing the right thing.

Bazsmum · « **Reply #282 on:** June 18, 2009, 17:30:14 PM »

Just topping up the hugs....this cant of been an easy decision to make but I know its for the best!

clarenmax · « **Reply #281 on:** June 18, 2009, 17:12:00 PM »

CC & The Pussycat Guys & Dolls · « **Reply #280 on:** June 18, 2009, 16:56:28 PM »

The cp lady on the phone said it would take about 1-2 weeks for Saffie to find a home, but she said it takes longer for the oldies

am I doing the right things here- regarding Oliver? he's 11 and quite settled here but I cant stand his spraying, my house stinks

I know Im doing right for Saffie- I just have to tell my heart that

JackSpratt · « **Reply #279 on:** June 18, 2009, 16:30:36 PM »

Daisy, Oliver is a former stray who sprays when he feels threatened with regards to his territory. He's a nice old bean, but would probably be less stressed in a home with fewer cats. I think CC has been great giving these cats the care they needed and helping them the way she has.

Daisymac · « **Reply #278 on:** June 18, 2009, 16:23:06 PM »

Quote from: ccmacey on June 18, 2009, 16:19:11 PM

Cp are going to take Saffron and Oliver tomorrow

Oh honey poor you

I am quite new here so dont know the full stories of everyone, I know all about Saffy, but what has happened with Oliver ?

Dawn F · « **Reply #277 on:** June 18, 2009, 16:20:36 PM »

fantastic news cc - its the start of a new life for her and only because you took her on - well done you!

CC & The Pussycat Guys & Dolls · « **Reply #276 on:** June 18, 2009, 16:19:11 PM »

Cp are going to take Saffron and Oliver tomorrow

JackSpratt · « **Reply #275 on:** June 18, 2009, 00:05:38 AM »

Possibly. The fight or flight mechanism is strong in cats and she's only a youngster. Everything that's happened to her must be very confusing.

CC & The Pussycat Guys & Dolls · « **Reply #274 on:** June 18, 2009, 00:00:58 AM »

Most of the day she will sit/ sleep on the top bunk in my kids room. She likes the door open tho and if she see's it closing she will jump down, she went crazy on sat when I tried to keep her in there to have the last kitten

Tonight she was sitting at the top of the stairs looking down

She was sitting very close to Ted tonight, almost so they could sniff noses

but then attacked him when they were upstairs after

Lyla is a big problem too- she now knows Saffie is scared of her so will keep up the chase

The only one she has had any interaction with at the moment is Ted tonight. She hates the rest I dont know if its because she's actually scared of them and thats why she attacks first?

JackSpratt · « **Reply #273 on:** June 17, 2009, 23:19:00 PM »

There's nothing wrong with letting animals have independence - I'm all for that. Is it more or less stressful to keep Saffy confined? (To you, her and the other cats I mean. It's a genuine question and you already know I think you'll do what's right for all the cats.)

CC & The Pussycat Guys & Dolls · « **Reply #272 on:** June 17, 2009, 23:00:45 PM »

Yes like none of my cats are neutered and although Ive been a member of purrs for over two years, Im still in the dark about cat knowledge

I like to allow my animals to do as they please- I call it letting them have a life!

I know what Saffie needs so there is no point in going over the facts- I already know

There are other reasons which are making my decision- reasons which I wish not to post.

JackSpratt · « **Reply #271 on:** June 17, 2009, 20:21:31 PM »

Quote from: Kittybabe (Ruth) on June 17, 2009, 20:13:25 PM

She's doing her best.

I think we all agree on that.

CC, I know it's horrible having to confine a cat that likes to roam but it's the best thing on offer at the moment. It's a pain because you want Saffron to be 100% content now she's away from the horrible place she was before - but just think about how much her life HAS improved due to someone caring about her.

Kittybabe (Ruth) · « **Reply #270 on:** June 17, 2009, 20:13:25 PM »

CC, you know your circumstances best, and only you know what your household is like at the moment. I can't imagine what you've had to deal with in this situation especially as you shared with us your own personal grief during this. Yes, it's well known that neutering/spaying can temper aggression, however, only you know what kind of bandwidth you have to cope with getting her spayed and helping her recover and keep her separated from others whilst handling your own household and children.

I appreciate the continued suggestions of spaying Saffron may be frustrating CC right now, especially as she have repeatedly stated she is aware that it needs doing. So I hope others take the above into account and allow CC to deal with that aspect of Saffron's care as best she can within her circumstances. She's doing her best.

Millys Mum · « **Reply #269 on:** June 17, 2009, 18:53:44 PM »

Id suggest you call other rescues CC, cant see how they can advertise an unspayed cat for rehoming...

www.catchat.org not sure what area your in so cant point the map there for you... must be some where else other than this one branch

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