she doesn't really need constant care. She sleeps on a vetbed with a puppy pad under it (and then the catbed!). The vetbed is changed daily (and the pad) and the other bedding as necessary.
She has a puppy pad beside her which she sometimes manages to poo or or there will be a bit on the floor somewhere.
The only thing is the weeing, in that as she drags herself around she leaves a trail of urine, but as the downstairs is all laminate and tiles, I just mop over every so often. and of course, when i have her on my lap i have a pad under her.
It may be that normal incontinence pads might help with that as I have noticed an increase in peeing on the pads which of course is what they are designed for but I have no idea where to get the ordinary ones from (yeah, look it up on the net why don't I but I couldn't find anything in the several chemist shops I tried the other day).
So really all she needs is someone prepared to put up with that and give her fuss - and I'm still hoping for that miracle cure - I mean you see with humans that nerve damage can take a long time to recover.