Topic: RIP my beautiful boy Rufus- ONE YEAR ON (Read 17824 times)

alisonandarchie · « **Reply #42 on:** February 12, 2009, 20:00:55 PM »

So sorry for you losing your lovely Rufus

I lost my Biggles like this so know a little of what you are going through

Mark · « **Reply #41 on:** February 12, 2009, 19:36:24 PM »

So sorry Debs - I wish I could do or say something that would help but I can't

Kirst · « **Reply #40 on:** February 12, 2009, 19:15:53 PM »

Oh Debs I am so very very sorry. I too have been in the same position and my heart is breaking for you right now.

RIP Rufus , play heard at the brige little man.

Sabrina (Auferstehen) · « **Reply #39 on:** February 12, 2009, 19:11:54 PM »

I'm so sorry you lost your little one.

I have the same bond with Lirael and I dread the day she leaves my side.

Bonkers Mad!!! · « **Reply #38 on:** February 12, 2009, 19:08:05 PM »

all cats are special but occasionally one comes along that has something a bit extra and it sounds like your Rufus was one of those. i know what you mean about Rufus being your best mate. my Ovis was (killed by next doors dog aged 6) and so was my little Blizzard (also aged 8 months). i looked for Blizzard until 3am and was up again at 6am to find him on the path a couple of doors down. for ages i was grateful that whoever had hit him had at least put him on the pavement and that with a broken neck it must have been quick. but it always seemed a bit suss that he hadnt been there at 3 but was there at 6. i later found out that the dog had got him too and they'd waited until my lights went off to position him in the street so it looked like an RTA. so all the feelings that it was quick and a blessing went away and i had to grieve all over again. my darling Ovis truly was a soul-mate, i really believe that and losing him broke my heart, it really did. if anybody had dared say to me "its only a cat" they would've got a punch in the mouth(or 2). i find that even now (5 years on) i can't think about him without crying. it's so bad that i just don't think about him, it's too painful but not thinking about him feels like a betrayal. i can honestly say that the 11 days he lived after the attack were the longest of my life and his death is the most traumatic thing i've ever experienced, far worse than any human loss i have suffered. i have one photo of Ovis and it's hard to look it. i don't have any of Blizzard (lost in a fire) but Blizzard is the reason i wont have another white cat

i truly feel for you. every day i wonder why i joined this forum, theres always something that makes me cry, every day. but i'd rather suffer the pain of losing them then never to have had them

Janeyk · « **Reply #37 on:** February 12, 2009, 17:41:15 PM »

So sorry to hear this

RIP Rufus xx

pappilon · « **Reply #36 on:** February 12, 2009, 17:37:41 PM »

Debs i am so so sorry, we are all here for you.

RIP little Rufus .

tab · « **Reply #35 on:** February 12, 2009, 17:28:06 PM »

Im so sorry

love
Tab

Tiggy's Mum · « **Reply #34 on:** February 12, 2009, 17:22:24 PM »

So sorry to hear this

RIP Rufus, taken too soon... Safe and sound at the Bridge until your Mum and Dad are ready to collect you xx

Remember Our Love

I was chosen that day
I'm learning to fly
the world took me away,
but please don't you cry

And I chose you today
to try and be strong
so please don't you cry
and don't say that I'm gone

When you're feeling alone
just remember our love,
I'm up near the stars
looking down from above.

Remember our love
In a moment you'll see
that I'm still here beside you
when you're thinking of me.

Stuart · « **Reply #33 on:** February 12, 2009, 17:09:46 PM »

I'm so sorry

Rufus, safe at the Bridge now

My thoughts are with you both

Yvonne · « **Reply #32 on:** February 12, 2009, 16:50:05 PM »

So very sorry to hear this - I know the pain believe me, we lost our Spike last year to an RTA. Just take each day at a time, be kind to yourself. Rufus would not want you to be unhappy for too long.

If we could bring you back again,
For one more hour or day,
We’d express all our unspoken love;
We’d have countless things to say.

If we could bring you back again,
We’d say we treasured you,
And that your presence in our lives
Meant more than we ever knew.

If we could bring you back again,
To tell you what we should,
You’d know how much we miss you now,
And if we could, we would.

***

My heart is reaching out to you,
For what you’re going through;
I’m thinking of you frequently
And praying for you, too.

****

Rufus - send your family a sign to let them know that you are safe

bonnielass · « **Reply #31 on:** February 12, 2009, 16:44:27 PM »

Oh Debs im so sorry to hear your sad news

i wish i could say something to make it all better,my thoughts will be with you and OH

:hug:R.I.P. Rufus till you all meet again

ems · « **Reply #30 on:** February 12, 2009, 16:29:27 PM »

Oh Debs I'm so sorry

RIP Rufus

Gill (sneakiefeline) · « **Reply #29 on:** February 12, 2009, 16:26:04 PM »

I wish I could say something that would help

Debsymiller (Rufus' mum) · « **Reply #28 on:** February 12, 2009, 16:21:48 PM »

Thank you all. I got home a little while ago. The kids were so lovely to me today and I kept it together til hometime but am an absolute wreck now. I can't believe he's not here to greet me, he never leaves my side when I'm home. I love all my babies but Rufus and I had a bond I have never experienced before he truly is my best friend. OH is still at work but we're both off for a week after tomorrow so will be able to support each other.

We have spoken several times on the phone today. He found him as he was leaving for work this morning. He has gone to the vets to be cremated and the vet called Brad back after they examined him and said it was a blow to the head so would have been very quick, which is at least a little bit of a blessing. They think it's likely to have been a car and I have to believe that as anything else doesn't bare thinking about. Brad found him and wrapped him in a blanket but thinks it definately happened last night. I knew in my gut it was bad news as he always comes in at the same time. We searched for him so many times last night and I went out several times with the temptations through the night as I couldn't sleep worrying about where he was. We just couldn't find him but it's likely we just couldn't see him in the dark.

We live in a pretty quiet place but he obviously walked further than either of us thought he did... probably on the trail for mischief as always.

I can't wait for OH to be home from work. He was really trying to hold it together but he's been through so much having to deal with all this so finally cracked on the phone earlier. He just kept saying 'sorry' when even though it's not in any way his fault, he knows how much this will hurt me. We always joke that Rufus is my 'other man!'

I can't ever imagine anything feeling worse than this and have no idea how I will ever manage without him. I was being all soppy the other day and I told my gorgeous boy the other day that I wished that we would both die on the same day so I would never go through the pain of losing him... and then just a few days later, he is gone. I really do hope the bridge is real and there is a heaven cause I cannot bare to think that my amazing little man's spirit is no more.

I just can't believe that someone could just hit him and drive off. I know it is better that we know what's happened and having been through this with a fmaily cat it will at least give me some closure in time but I just can't stop picturing it in my mind.

At least when I have lost babes in the past they have been old or ill. Even with Layla, although she was young, she became free of all the pain... this just seems so unnecessary. He was 8 months old- what had he ever done to deserve this???

Gillian Harvey · « **Reply #27 on:** February 12, 2009, 15:44:40 PM »

So sorry Debs

like many others here, I've been through this too and it is devastating. We are all here for you.

Kay and Penny · « **Reply #26 on:** February 12, 2009, 15:27:50 PM »

so sad - it never gets easier

Ron's little Daisy will keep Rufus company at Rainbow Bridge

Millys Mum · « **Reply #25 on:** February 12, 2009, 15:20:36 PM »

So sorry Debs

Maddiesmum · « **Reply #24 on:** February 12, 2009, 15:06:27 PM »

I am so sorry Debs, you must be in shock. I hope you managed to get home early. RIP Rufus

Sheli_80 · « **Reply #23 on:** February 12, 2009, 14:52:50 PM »

Debs I'm so so sorry to hear about Rufus. Hope work wasn't too horrible today sending

R.I.P Rufus.

Marcia · « **Reply #22 on:** February 12, 2009, 14:31:37 PM »

I'm so sorry for your loss Debs

Hang in there hun

2d · « **Reply #21 on:** February 12, 2009, 14:28:31 PM »

I'm so, so sorry.

I've been there - nearly six years ago our boy Vlad was hit by a car and killed (although he actually died overnight at the vets).

It's small comfort, but the thing I was always most grateful for was that we found him - we knew what had happened. So many owners never get to know.

Now one of Vlad's successors has gone to the bridge too....

RIP little man.

Bryony84 · « **Reply #20 on:** February 12, 2009, 14:02:47 PM »

I'm so sorry for your loss Debs, my heart goes out to your whole family, both human and furry.

Rufus, send your mum a sign that you're safe at the bridge, all our bridge babes will look after you.

Feline Costumier · « **Reply #19 on:** February 12, 2009, 13:59:19 PM »

Oh my goodness, how awful for you. My thoughts are with you, your OH and your other babes. Playhard at the bridge little man.

tigerbaby · « **Reply #18 on:** February 12, 2009, 13:47:44 PM »

NO!!!

This is awful! I REALLY share your pain. It's the most awful thing ever. All I can say is hang in there, and take your time to grieve. Rufus was a very much loved, special boy. He knows that too. My Jameson has welcomed him at the Bridge and I suspect they are already running riot.

MrsR · « **Reply #17 on:** February 12, 2009, 13:27:06 PM »

Oh sweetheart I am so sorry, I know there is nothing I can say to take the pain away but we are all here for you.

You know I lost 2 of my cats in the same month recently and the support I recieved here helped so please know everyone is here for you whatever ok

I know my Sylvester and Sofa will be playing with Rufus on the Rainbow Bridge sweetie.

I will light a candle for him when I am home from work.

Topsy Turvey · « **Reply #16 on:** February 12, 2009, 13:26:59 PM »

Debs so sorry to hear about Rufus. My thoughts are with you at this terrible time x

Bonkers Mad!!! · « **Reply #15 on:** February 12, 2009, 13:26:10 PM »

oh i'm so sorry to hear about your baby

Leanne · « **Reply #14 on:** February 12, 2009, 13:25:58 PM »

Debs I am so sorry

Play hard at the bridge little one

Sue P (Paddysmum) · « **Reply #13 on:** February 12, 2009, 13:21:39 PM »

Debs, am so sorry, sweetheart. Play hard at the bridge Rufus.

Liz · « **Reply #12 on:** February 12, 2009, 13:10:31 PM »

So soirry for your loss its never easy we lost 2 in 3 months so can sympathise with you

If I was you I would just get up and leave - I did it a number of years ago when our darling Haggis died in an RTA
I hope you can get home soon and cuddle the remaining lights in your life as they will be as confused as you

Den · « **Reply #11 on:** February 12, 2009, 13:09:41 PM »

Oh no

I'm so sorry for your loss

Christine (Blip) · « **Reply #10 on:** February 12, 2009, 13:08:04 PM »

I am so sorry for your loss, Debs.

Indys Mamma · « **Reply #9 on:** February 12, 2009, 13:07:56 PM »

oh Debs!

I'm so sorry for you and your family

sheryl · « **Reply #8 on:** February 12, 2009, 13:01:30 PM »

Oh no Hunnie I am so so sorry and am sitting here crying for you and the beautiful Rufus - thinking of you

RIP sweet Rufus - another furbaby taken too young xxx

clarenmax · « **Reply #7 on:** February 12, 2009, 12:59:55 PM »

I'm so sorry sweetheart

Can't you get whoever's in charge to let you go home now? You're grieving and in shock, you shouldn't have to be at work hunnie

Dawn F · « **Reply #6 on:** February 12, 2009, 12:59:02 PM »

I think Debs is a teacher Gill

Gill (sneakiefeline) · « **Reply #5 on:** February 12, 2009, 12:55:37 PM »

So sorry to hear this, what a terrible thing to happen

Why cant you go home now?

RIP Rufus

Beth · « **Reply #4 on:** February 12, 2009, 12:52:49 PM »

i'm so very sorry to read this.

thinking of you

Sam (Fussy_Furball) · « **Reply #3 on:** February 12, 2009, 12:52:01 PM »

Oh Hun, My heart goes out to you

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