Sorry for the slow update!
After all your great tips my OH (I'm not a phone person
) took contact with rspca but they didnt have any cat traps and said she was probably on heat and would come back after some days. He then left 4 messages with different CP contacts in the area (this was during worktime/lunch so I guess most people were out working themself). Our work is very close to blue cross so my OH went in there after work, they don't have any cat traps either (my hopes started to go down by this point) but he got some tips from them as well when it came to catching and got a bunch of leaflets to give the neighbour - though it might be a bit late for that. (In the end we didnt push them through their door, they already know but they dont do it)
Later in the evening we got a call back from a very friendly lady from CP, she came with lots of tips, she also said it was a hard situation to be in and came with some good suggestions. They also have cat traps
they were in use when she called us, but we will get contacted again when they are available so that is great as I think we really will not make it without. We don't have a car but they could even help with getting them here! Our friend with his old wreck of a car can bring it back again this weekend (crossing all fingers and toes - we will catch her).
After the chat with CP we went out to try to find the little furball again, but no sign of her at all. Some hours later it started snowing, but no paw prints in the snow. I started thinking something bad might have happened to her, we don't live on a busy road but it only takes one car on the calmest road and one unlucky cat so as the hours flew by I got more and more upset. It is bad enough thinking about a small shy young hungry cat laying outside in the snow trying to keep warm, but when we did not see her for almost 2 days in a row I couldnt get my mind of it.
Yesterday (if we are not counting past midnight!) my OH decided to talk to the neighbour. I was at work so do not know what was said in detail, but she is def wanting to keep the cat, and the reason they arent spayed/neutered is because she was unsure how old the female is. My OH explained that the male is mounting her and that something must be done really ASAP, and she said she had planned to take them to the RSPCA together (for neutering). OH also said we havent seen her for some days, but we do see the male and as they are usually together we were getting worried about her, but the neighbour said she was almost certain she was hiding in an old shed nearby and would check it in daylight. She also said the cat is friendly inside and now let her son stroke her and often comes up for a cuddle. Bit of back on forth my OH didnt want to be rude or to pushy and the fact that she wanted to neuter them made it a tiny bit better. (but only for one night) Today OH met her after work, she didnt bother checking the shed because she had to go somewhere and had not seen the cat around.
Needless to say OH rushed over to check the shed asap (its behind a fence through a garden so a tiny mission ok but not something you need full daylight and scene lights for) no cat to be found. I told OH my worries and he started to feel a bit down too, poor little kitten possibly pregnant outside freezing and being hungry - or overrun by a car. We got some smelly fish from the shop, and left it outside so she could pick it up during the night if she was hungry and still around.
Today we finally spotted her again, and my OH managed to get her pretty close by offering some smelly fish and throwing biscuits towards her. I'm so happy she is (looks like) ok and still hopefully nearby, and know where to come for food now - fish, chicken and biscuits (RC) is surely better than the cheap stuff from the shop anyways
Hope she won't get an upset tummy
Still very shy, and running off after about 10-15 min with sneak feeding her. Our cat is always very interested, not that easy to trap a cat when our own is sticking his head into the cat carrier and wondering if all this great stuff is for him
so we are keeping him inside now. My OH hoped the neighbour kitten would realize we are good and loving people by seeing how we are to our own cat
but that didnt work so far!
I'm really frustrated at the moment, I don't feel we can do the right thing whatever we do - except to trap her and get her neutered - but feels wrong to give her back, she will be out again within 3 days im sure
If we keep her we could get in trouble, and the CP lady told us we have to sign a legal document at the vet to spay a female cat - stating that we are the owners and she recommended not doing this, and we really really do not want to hand her over to any shelter, mostly because she is so shy and we think she needs all the attention and socializing she can get in a warm home but also because we are right here, we care about her and can give her that and we also got a cat that are perfectly fine with her. I'm sure it will turn out ok for all parts once we catch her.
The CP lady also told us about a vet clinic in London (? need to double check with OH!) that can spay/neuter as young as 4 weeks, and I didnt know that cold be done so early so close to us so when or if we get a new cat or kitten on our own at least we know about that!
We also offered to foster for CP, but we already have a cat and no secure/own garden so they usually wouldnt place a cat/kitten with us, but they wrote us down anyways. We do have a guest room so it would be fully possible, and after all the great help we got from CP it would be really nice to help them out too if they need it ( I would realize I can't live without a possible foster cat within 1 hour so I would probably end up keeping all
)
Ugh I'm still a bit down and frustrated, if it was MY cat missing I would be out every hour of the day trying to get the cat in, buying snack and making tons of tempting toys, asking the neighbours and putting up posters anything I could do.. but these people havent been outside to look not even once, dont even ask if we have seen her when we meet them outside. Our place looks quite horrible now, the floors are muddy from running in and out - fetching carriers, string and food, and it is freezing cold and wet, if we catch her she will probably not notice she is inside