That's so nice of you to give so many suggestions, I just realized that lots of people have had the same problem...
My kittens are all boys, from the same liter, 5 months old and every one of thm is a jewel! To me, anyway
My friend has kept the two sisters (liter of six) and the mum, she has been neutered now and
I know what you mean about smacking Buster, I thought myself that it sounded very cruel and although my friend (not the mum cat keeper, another one) told me that unless I do that I will spoil them, I just cant do it! He's so tiny compared to me, that wuld be bullying of the worst kind. He looks up to me with love and really trying to understand me...or so he looks like!
I don't think he's spraying, as he squats down to do it. A few days ago I caught him just about to go so I picked him up and instead of stopping he just laid back in my hands, as if on an armchair back legs wide open - la di da, and kept weeing, so I was carrying around this fauntain cat and wetting al my carpets! I bet he enjoyed himself! By the time I reached the tray he had finished, and he looked at me and started scratching the tray, as if to say "See how good I am, I cover up!". It made me laugh ! I just grabbed me sponge and products and started scrubbing, all of them looking on.
The other day as I walked in the livin room and the stecnh was so thick I thought I was going to faint I had literally tears in my eyes, and I picked him up, and took him with me to the bathroom where his toilet his. I sat down with him, closed the door and took the hood off the tray, put him in but he just jumped back out again, and as I was upset he must have realized that he been naughty and he started when I went to reach for a piece of paper...he made me cringe! Poor sweety, to think that he was scared of me, even if for just a fraction of a second, I just hugged him and kissed him and he was purring his head off! By the end he prob thougt it was good of him to pee around! We sat on the bathroom floor for a while and then opened the door for the others to see what was going on.
That's the worst thing, I feel like I'm not getting across and we don't understand each other.
Thanks for the advice, I won't punish him anymore. I feel so cruel now! You really opened my eyes to his point of view.
I try to explain to him and show him that he should wee in the tray, but I see that he looks at me with puzzled eyes when I point to the toilet, as if he really had no idea why he should go in there, yet I know for a fact that he used to go in the tray before, as I saw him coming out from there many times, and gave him praise and treats to encourage good habits. He also does his number 2s in there.???
He and his brother Purrvis are the biggest of the mob, and they play fight all day and night. I don't think there are any dominance issues, but what do I know! They sleep cuddled, clean each other and never fight seriously, or hiss and growl.
Could it be that my neighbour's cat sometimes comes in and hises at them? His name's Bill and he's an older boy.. I think he's just scared stiff of the kittens as they are so rough to each other and he's scared they will pounce on him. Bill's 13! He's been coming round fo years and it'd be a shame if he couldn't do that anymore. In the afternnons as my neighbours are at work he comes in for some company and a treat or three. The kittens don't seem bothered, but he does hiss and growl at them sometimes, if they're being wild.
I will buy another tray, just in case, and have a good read at the links posted for me.
You are all very kind and patient, thank you so very much
Re pictures: I must eb the only person left with no digital camera! I should invest on a scanner...