Hi Deany.
So sorry you found this site in desperation (I did too, just a few weeks ago). You'll find lots of help and support here, people stay up till all hours chatting about cat stuff, they'll offer all they know and what they don't know, they know someone who does, so it's brilliant.
Check your spam, my replies always get notified to my spam box (figure?), yours might be the same. If you like the smileys, check out the [more] option.
Jaff is a lovely boy. He's very like my Theo. I wish you luck and love.
Sheila