RIP my little Oliver

[Gill (sneakiefeline)]

I am so sorry but have only just seen this and it must be hard without Oliver 

RIP Oliver

[Steph85]

Thanks everyone for the kind messages.
I came back to uni last week and my parents took some old toys and his carrier back home with them. It was so upsetting. It breaks my little heart not having him around and i'm leaving the student accommodation in June so that I can move back home or get my own place or something so I can have another cat. It hurts so much still and I can't bring myself to look at pics of him sometimes as it makes me cry.
People who run over animals and then leave them to die are SICK! How would they like it if someone knocked them down and then just drove off and left them to die?! I wish I could track down the person who ran over my little boy so I could show them how it affects someone.

[puggy1975 Zoe]

Play hard on the bridge little one
xxx

[Janeyk]

RIP sweet little Oliver xx 

[CC & The Pussycat Guys & Dolls]

Goodnight God bless Oliver xxx

 

[Steph85]

thank you for the messages everyone.
it is getting slightly easier now but there are still some days that are very difficult, and some things i do make me feel really upset, but i am slowly getting somewhere. my doctor has put me on citalopram tablets to try and keep me feeling fairly 'happy' over the christmas and new year period and i'm going to spend the holiday period fussing over the 2 kitties back home to cheer myself up a bit 
i'm also doing like a memory box thing and a photo album over the holidays.
hopefully after new year i'll have a new bundle of joy to keep me company if my landlady lets me. a new cat will never ever replace my baby, he was one of a kind (as every cat is), but it will give me a companion again.

[Tan]

So Sorry hun 

Oliver will always be in your heart.

 

[puggy1975 Zoe]

RIP Oliver, your mum will always love and miss you

take care

xx

[Bazsmum]

So sorry for your loss, Oliver was beautiful! 

RIP Sweet Oliver, play hard on Rainbow Bridge x

[Michelle (furbabystar)]

I am so sorry 

I lost 2 within 3wks this year (22nd aug and 18th Sept)  so understand the pain you are going through.
You got to just take it day by day Steph.
I am still at the stage where I cry everyday but I know it will start to get less soon (i hope)

Oliver is very handsome, I am sure he is having fun at the Bridge

xxx

[clarenmax]

It honestly does get easier hun, the pain never goes away entirely, and often it creeps up on you when you least expect it, but it does lessen 

When I first lost Max in July I kind of went into denial I guess, I refused to talk about it to anyone (apart from Purrs Peeps who were wonderful), and just kept myself really busy.  It was weird though, I was kind of on autopilot, doing the things I'd normally do, but had no recollection of doing them, just kept going day to day.

I'm still nowhere near back to normal, over 4 months have passed and the pain is still there, I still have a good old cry regularly when I need to, but it helps, and you have to let it out, and do it in your own time.

Oliver probably is still with you hun, I've certainly sensed Max on several occasions, I don't believe they ever truly leave us xxx

[Sam (Fussy_Furball)]

Oh Steph hun ... I really wish I could take the pain away for you.  It's awful when you lose a little one unexpectedly but without wanting to sound cliched ... it does get easier with time.  Of course there is no time limit on grief and no-one can tell you when you should feel better (although I'm sure there will be lots of people who will try   ).

Your fiance is right ... once you have loved and been loved by a special furbabe there will always be a little bit of them with you forever.  They have a way of leaving a mark on your heart that can never be removed.  

It's still early days but when you feel more upto talking about your little guy we would love to hear all about him and his special ways.

[CoolCyberCats]

Steph85,
I always found it best to keep busy after a loss. I would read, watch the television or surf on the computer.

Perhaps your fiance was right and Oliver was there with you. I like to think such things are possible. But as long as you remember Oliver and think about him he is with you in some way. And you would not and could not feel the pain and sorrow had you not honestly had the love with him. So in a strange way the pain shows you the love, or at least a small part of it. And if Oliver did not feel the love back then he would not have been affectionate at all. So you made his life all the better for the time he was with you.

David

[Steph85]

thank you.
at the moment i can't carry on. i haven't bothered doing any uni assignments and have missed 2 deadlines now, and i find it hard to get up in the mornings now i'm not being woken up at 6.30am by a (rather large) kitten jumping on the bed.
i could handle patch going to the bridge as he was very ill (with fip) and it was kindest to put him to sleep, and mabel had several strokes and my parents thought it was kindest to put her to sleep and let her go on the bridge (i was away at uni when this happened so i didn't find out for a few hours after via phone call). I got Oliver about a month after mabel had gone and I expected to have the little guy for years, not just 12 and a half months     I really do think he knew he was going to the bridge though because he was strangely over-affectionate the morning he went.

It's nice that you keep Hamlet's collar with you 

my fiance thinks that oli's spirit is following me around everywhere now, but i can't feel him.
the evening after we had buried him the outside security light came on and wouldn't go off but there was nothing outside, so we opened the catflap and then the light went off. spooky.

[CoolCyberCats]

Steph85,
I am so very sorry for your loss. Oliver was a lovely cat.

I am also sorry about Patch and Mabel! 3 in one year! I know that pain only too well.

Sometimes the pain and sorrow can be unbearable and you wonder how you will carry on. It will take time for your soul to heal some, but it will.

I find it so helpful to talk about it on boards with others who know the pain. If you do as well I am (as we all are here) here to listen.

When I lost my soul cat Hamlet in 2005, I put his collar on my wrist. I wore it every day except when in bed. Then our cat Nova grabbed it on the desk one evening and chewed on the clip and not it won't latch, so I keep it in my pocket to this day. The little bell likely drives everyone at work nuts when I am walking, but all I hear is Hamlet as we walks with me.

I am very sorry for your losses.

Sincerely,
David and the CoolCyberCats

[clarenmax]

Such a handsome boy, I'm sure he's breaking a few hearts on the Bridge right now 

RIP Oliver 

[Steph85]

RIP Oliver.
He has been up on the bridge for 2 weeks now and is sorely missed.
He was 15 months old and got hit by a car, thrown in some bushes apparently, then moved onto someone's garden the next day when someone saw my poster saying he was missing.
He was a gorgeous, affectionate little guy who loved being cuddled and being around people.
I know he's up on that bridge keeping watch over me, along with my old cats Patch (went onto the bridge Aug 07) and Mabel (went up onto the bridge Oct 08). I hope he's ahppy up there and his spirit will live on.