Thanks again everyone, Amanda I can sort of understand why someone would not cope with daily or weekly vet visits, not that I would give up my boy (wouldn't consider it, or put him to sleep, oh dear) but it is really upsetting going back again and again, I lost an elderly cat last year after an operation and vet visits every two days, rushing her in with breathing difficulties and all sorts, during diagnosis, operation, recovery and eventually her not making it made for an extremely intense 3 months (as anyone who has had a sick cat will know) and it can really really drain and upset you seeing your baby in such upset.
With Freddy it's not so much he is in pain as I said before he is completely unbothered by the wound but he is really upset by the carrier and cat combination and wees all over himself and poo's as well, so as well as the stress of the vet visit there is also an hour of military precision clean up job once we get home (prising poo out of a semi long haired cats coat is not fun for any of us )
Actually he has still not gone back to the vet since last Friday when she took the last staples out, Saturday morning the wound reopened but did not re-open at the top or bottom of the wound which after stitching and stapling have held *touch wood*. He is on different antibiotics and the wound appears to be scabbing over and not growing any larger which makes a change, nowhere hear out of the woods yet as he has been in a similar to this position before back in Jnauary prior to the first operation to remove skin that scabbed and fell off, scabbed and fell off growing larger each time. Until I see what happens with this scab I won't know, back to daily monitoring.
I suppose I'm still no clearer on why this particular bit wont heal when the top of bottom of the vet made scar (to remove any unhealthy tissue) healed fine millimetres away so it's not that the skin is under more stress in that area, it's not that he has an issue with wound healed generally and if we went the route of skin graft then would we ever know why he never healed naturally, does that matter at all, am I making too much of it?
Round in circles