Just to update that the lovely Nina joined us yesterday at lunchtime and was swiftly put in her delux bedroom - complete with all the toys the boys never use and some of her toys from her old home -
Nina seemed quite happy with it and within a few hours had ate a meal and used her litter tray - not seen her take any water yet but then I always seem to miss that with the boys too and she has had a lot of wet food so far so no worries there.
I ended up going in to read a book in her room and let her get to know me - I ended up falling asleep in there this morning and woke up to this next to me
Yesterday when I came in I let the boys have a sniff of her in her carrier - so they know she is here but so far Oscar has showed little interest (nothing new there
) however Edgar is clealry jumping at the bit to meet her and has been a real gentleman - this afternoon we let her out to explore the downstairs (where our three bedrooms are) and Edgar watched her - did not react and in fact when she had a bit of a hiss at him he backed off. We then played with 'da bird'and Nina was at the bottom of the stairs and Edgar at the top and there was no hissing or anything.
So we let Edgar into her room - just inside - for a few mins and Nina did not hiss or growl at all -
Here they are
Thats Edgar having a nose at her but he seems to understand that he has to take it slow - they have had a sniff at each other and Edgar has made no noise (he has never hissed in all the time I Have had him ) and Nina was a bit growly however by this point was fine and in fact right after this was taken she padded over to her food and ate away with her back turned to Edgar so it anything I know she does not feel threatened...or certainly no more than would be expected.
She will still be in her room most of the time as I don't want to rush things and have a lot of time off over the festive period to monitor things and I will leave the Oscar introduction until she is more relaxed - I know he won't approach her anyway. Nine has saw him as when I opened her door he was at the sop of the stairs in her line of vision and she just watched him.
Right now they are all asleep at different parts of the house and I have left Nina's door open so she can explore a bit more before its bed time and door closed - so far so good!!
Thanks again everyone for the advice - positive and negative - and look forward to updating you on here - but under a different arm of the forum as realised this doesn't really fall under re-homing and rescue.