Yeap, will send to you too hun. I am wading through my emails to find it and will email as soon as i can. Gilly has a copy as well so i have asked her to look for that for me.
What i was advised by the behaviourist was that i needed to start from the beginning again to reintroduce Rio & Gizzy slowly. You 1st need to have both cats happy in home environment again with no eye contact with each other. Once they are happy and normal self, you can then start smell swapping and the goal is to have the same happy relaxed cats and used to the others smell in a good way and not associated with aggressive or bad things. When re introducing the smells give a treat or a plat time so the cats associate the smell with good stuff.
Only until they are happy with the new smell should you start introducing the cats for very little times at first and if all goes well gradually increase time spent in same room etc.
it has to be on their time and not our time to get to know and acccept the newbie so a great deal of patience is needed and it could be a month before you see some changes. I was lucky and the introducing took about 3 weeks and Gizyy and Rio got on well after. We did have to have two weeks with swapping smells and making sure there was no contact. So we used to take turns with each cat and also give Rio is normal routine. Ie rRo always slept on our bed at night so little gizzy had to sleep in his room at night. But my hubby had him in the lounge with him till early hours when he was working on pc so little giz was not on his own for much. In the day Gizzy was in the lounge and Rio was out and about as usual. When rio wanted to come in Gizzt went backup to his room! Alot of swapping and effort on our parts but it worked to get them together.
It really could be a case of the newbie just bot being excepted by the resident cat at all. This is more common when the resident cat is older and used to being only cat in which case it is not really fair on both cats to have a newbie in the home.
I had my Ben on his own till he went to the bridge as he was such a nervous older cat, it wouldn't have been fair on him to go through any introductions and he thrived being an only cat. I have only introduced other cats to my res cats if they are used to and grown up with cat company in the house.
I had a cat that was fine with outside cats but was awful if any new cat came into the house as they see the house as their core territory and safety place so it is important to introduce into their core territory slowly.
It also depends on the size and personality of the newbie. Some personalities will never get on with another in which case it is fairer to re home one for the sake of both cats.
I think all we can do is try to introduce them at their own pace and hope they do get on or if after a time of trying they are still unhappy,then it's best to re home which is def not easy for us to do.
I have also some very easy introductions by the way. When Rio was taken
, Garfy got on with Gizzy straight away. I did the separating etc but vheeky Garf got out of his room one day and ran face to face with gizzy. Garf wasn;t scared at all and Gizzy was "amused" by the little one. they both had the same personality ie outgoing and rough play so they got on like a house on fire straight away.
I am in no way an expert on this so this is just what i went through. What i did learn was to understand cats alot more as their own species, why they do things that are natural behaviour and it opened my eyes to so much as i always tended to think how i feel is how they think or feel. To understand their natural ways is one of the important things to know and then a solution can possibly be found to solve most probs.
Vicky Halls books on cat behaviour also really helped me
