Finding it hard

[Ellie]

We are all here for you 

I still have a cry over my Bridge babies, even after 20 years or more.

As others have said you never forget them but you do learn to come to terms with your loss in time.

Love and hugs to you and your family xxxxxxxx

 

[crazycatz]

i lost my cat 10 years ago and it stills hurts terribly
my thoughts are with at this sad time 

[lilycat]

You know, a rainbow is a lovely way of remembering Gizzy but because you haven't seen one yet, it doesn't mean he's not safe and well so please don't focus all of your hopes for Gizzy just on seeing a rainbow. He's safe and he's well and I really do believe that you'll see him again, in the meantime you'll miss him and think of him and you'll carry on loving him.

When I took Mavey to the vet to be pts, I was destraught because I thought she might be lost and not able to find her way home so when I was alone in the house I called her name just like I usually did - did it for a couple of nights so at least she knew where I was in case she wanted to come home and couldn't find her way. Gizzy will know where you are because he was in a familiar place when he passed - he's either stayed with you or he'll have answered a different call, either way he's safe. You don't need a rainbow to tell you that.

Love and hugs to you both xx

[JackSpratt]

None of what you're saying sounds silly. It's all perfectly understandable.

I hope the acceptance of the situation gets easier. (I don't think you ever get over a loss, I think it's more about coming to terms with a situation you can't do anything about.)

I know how you feel, I still miss Parsley (although I do love my other four to bits too) and get weepy from time to time. It does get more copeable with time, honestly.

[Ralph's mum (angie)]

  Hi hope you are feeling a bit better today(stupid thing to say i no)
but i to lost my bestest friend in the whole world three weeks ago tomorrow so i send you my sympathy and hope we get our rainbow soon
I have never wished for rain so much in my life ha ha.  I was moaning about not feeling Bob around and thinking maybe he didnt love me, which of course was making me cry all the more when my hubby said 'give him time maybe he still feels a bit sick himself, you wont have to wait to long i'm sure' always the voice of reason, so i will wait and i will be patient cause i love him x

[Rosella moggy]

It takes time for the pain to ease and I found I needed a cat again very quickly and had two within a week cos I was so desperate but everyone is different.

Last night I came across the closely typed two page letter I sent to the RSPCA following Aslan's RTA last September as they had the audacity to make me wait over a week for a homecheck before I could take Freddie home with me.  The manager must have thought I was some kinda loony     Not that surprised now that she never took me up on my offer to help out and become a home checker.

I wish you weren't hurting so much SP but it goes with the territory. The more you love them, the more it hurts but it will ease so give yourself a little time. 

[Sabrina (Auferstehen)]

It’s hard when they go to the bridge but it will get easier.

Lost Little Girl in February and found myself crying my eyes out yesterday over her, then one of my feral foster kittens decided to purr for the first time while I was holding her, which made me cry all over again.

Your rainbow will come, just give Gizmo time.

[Cheesecat]

  I hope you get your rainbow soon - it is raining alot today so hopefully Gizmo has had three weeks training from the kitties on the bridge to give you the biggest brightest rainbow there is.

I haven't lost a kitty yet myself but even imagining what it would be like without one of my three makes me feel upset - I can't imagine what you are going through. Lots and lots of 

[Mark]

Just to let you l know that we are here for you. As others have said, we all understand and are here to support and help you 

[Desley (booktigger)]

aww, I am sorry you are still finding it so hard, it is a lot harder when it is unexpected and you dont get chance to say goodbye. Things will get easier with time though, and there is no set time for you to feel better, 3 weeks is still early days, so dont fret too much that you are still grieving. Spend lots of time and cuddles with the others, and we are here if you want to talk, however daft it might sound. Big hugs to you.

[Tiggy's Mum]

   Just wanted to echo what others have said, we are all here for you.  When I lost Tiggy I made a CD of beautiful 'Tiggy' songs, songs that reminded me of her - some happy, some sad.  I found it really helped as I could listen to the CD over and over and remember all the special things about her.  Maybe you could do a CD for Gizmo 

[swampmaxmum]

lots of love xxx. Love's the greatest gift in the world and what makes life living imho, but that's why loss is so incredibly painful. Don't let anyone tell you that you are being 'silly' or 'unreasonable' and if anyone says 'it was only a cat', you give them a right smack from me. I hope in time that you can remember the good times with Gizmo, like getting into your bed and snuggling with you.
We are all here to chat anytime and everyone understands. 

[Hippykitty]

So sorry you are grieving. It's the price we pay for loving them. At least you know he was loved and your grief is proof of that. It will slowly ease. You'll always feel a little pang when you think of him, but it will get easier.

Lots of hugs.

 

[Pinkbear (Julie)]

It's a lonely journey. Sometimes you want to talk. Sometimes you want to be left alone.

I think everyone needs to handle it their own way. But I think it's even harder when you never got a chance to say 'goodbye'. One thing you may concider is using the Rainbow Bridge board to say your own personal goodbye to Gizmo. It might help to get things off your chest?

I go from day to day without my Tigger. I think that's all you really can do.

Rememeber there's a host of folks here who are right there with you willing you on.... 

[Gill (sneakiefeline)]

I understand so much cos it will be two years on 23rd since Kocka went to the Bridge and I still miss her so much.

It takes time for the pain to ease and I found I needed a cat again very quickly and had two within a week cos I was so desperate but evryone is different.

I found it helped me to write things down when I was feeling very bad, how I felt and my memories of Kocka, what ever and how much I wanted. I cant look at all I wrote cos still feel so bad but one day I will and I have all her things upstairs in a big box............so much reminds me of her.

So many of us have been where you are now and we all know how very very hard it is, we are here for you. 

[hannah (weeny)]

oh sweets, sending you huge hugs    i know it hurts so much, its the only downside to being slaves, but its a huge downside.  i lost my suzie 3 years ago now and it still hurts, not as much and not as readily, but i'll easily cry thinking about her sometimes.

try to focus on the wonderful happiness gizmo brought you, and he will definately find his way to the bridge if he hasnt already, he's probably distracted chasing butterflies or whatever his favourite thing was and has forgotten to let his mummy know so far, but he will soon.

and you never sound silly to us lot with worries or sadness or baby talk to the puss cats, we planted a tree where suzie is buried and i'm always going to say hi to her and i even stroke the leaves of the tree as it makes me feel closer to her...

we're all here for you anytime you need us xxx

[Dawn (DiddyDawn)]

Awww hun    It's awful when our furbabes go to the bridge, and believe me I know how you feel.  When Dylan died, I felt my heart had been broken in two and it took me a long time to get through a day without crying but it does get easier, I promise    You will never forget Gizmo and he'll always be close by but he wouldn't want you to be sad and I'm sure he's safe on the bridge now, and would have made lots of new friends.  We're all here for you and we all know how you feel so if you need to chat, we will try and get you through this.

I'm glad Louis is feeling a little better now, he will be missing him just as much as you bless him.

Sending you big ((((hugs)))) and thinking of you, xxxxxxxxx

[smudgepickles]

Im really having trouble being able to carry on my daily life without Gizmo  its been 3 weeks tomorrow since I lost him and it seems like an eternity since I last was able to cuddle him.

I know its early days but my hearts well and truely broken without my little star. He took up so much of my life as he was always there when I came in, got up and most nights would sleep IN my bed. I know I have the other 8 but he was my best friend and loved kisses and cuddles and I do so miss him 

It was so sunny on friday and then the black clouds appeared.............I was praying for a rainbow then I would have known he was at rainbow bridge ....safe  I feel he isnt anywhere at the moment and Im worried he is lost  (I know that sounds silly to most of you)

Louis has settled but still has occasions where he calls at the fence like he use too when Gizmo went out without him but he has slowly becoming friends with Daisy and Elle


I wish it didnt hurt so much to lose them