ok, the cat in question, male, 5 years old, neutered at 6 months before he ever went outside. has been an indoor/outdoor cat since then. never lived with another cat, never gotten on with them, did live with a dog but sadly we had to rehome her due to me developing health issues which have caused pain when walking and nobody else being home to walk her. over the past maybe 8 months, the cat has gone from a lovely cuddly indoor cat, sofa time and purring soppy baby, to a claustraphobic oddity!
he will come and open the back door, meowing all the time like he used to do to ask to be let in, then he will come in, but if we dare to close the door he yowls the place down and panics until he finds an escape. i mean jumping all over the kitchen sides (never been allowed to get up there) darting around the sofa, jumping up at the windows. as soon as he gets outside, he relaxes but wont come near the house. hes gotten so bad we now have to feed him outside too. he has also began hunting and eating whatever he catches rather than eat the food he has out there. he used to be hooked on wet foods, so would have dry down at all times then a couple of times a week have a treat of a wet tin of food. now he wont touch wet food, will eat a few dry biscuits if he hasnt managed to hunt. we used to worm him using granules which we mixed into wet food, now we have to catch him and force a pill in him. we frontline him regularly but to do that we have to sit outside and wait for him to come to us, then catch him and do it before he realises whats going on. he doesnt run away but hes not keen.
outside, if we sit down, hes all over us, proper lap cat, loves his cuddles and fuss, even when my 1 year old sister is around he will run up to her for fuss. come in the house though and hes gone over the fence and away incase we bring him in.
i am now panicking, with the weather cooling down, he really hated it last year, and we cant leave a shed or out building open for him to come and go as he pleases. there is no way on earth we can confine him to the house, the stress it causes him and the noise he makes are unbareable.
help...please....if i thought he had a 2nd home somewhere id be fine but i know he spends all his time in the fields around us and in the hedgerows, hes either going to freeze or starve if we get the winter we had last year and to be honest, id rather he went to a new farm type home where i know he can escape it all and find food than stay here with us living like he is. i just dont know where to turn now. i am allergic to him, so hes limited to downstairs when in the house anyway, but he has made the odd run for upstairs before, id open up the house if i could do in an attempt to show him its safe.