Jasmine - advice needed please

[Bazsmum]

Yeah sometimes I think with new ones in the house the others need reassurance....I think your wise to take it slow with her, hope all goes to plan! 

[pinkpandora]

I managed to pick her up in the  garden today and she leaned against me and purred I didn't bring her in cos I want to get her confidence back as to letting me pick her up again

[Millys Mum]

Sounds like shes making progress already 

[pinkpandora]

Thank you. The kitties ae not old enough to be neutered and have been checked ove by my vet. I am going to take things gradually with Jasmine. She will now come just inside the door with the door open so I am going to  just move he bowl further and further into the kitchen. Also, I am stoking her while she is eating and have sent off fo some Feliway today

[Gill (sneakiefeline)]

the kittens also really should be isolated until you know they are healthy and are vacinnated to protect your current cats.

jasmine ythinks that her place of safety has been stolen by these intruders, so she needs to be allowed time to regain her territory.

another thibg is if the kittens are old ebnough ti be neutered abd are not,,,,that would make her feel threatened too

[pinkpandora]

Feliway is a great idea. I will try that and try my best to keep them upstairs. I think Jazzy just takes longer to adjust to things but itbreaks my heart when she sits outside the door and I know she wants to come in but is scared. I could kicj myself really but these two babies really needed help

[Millys Mum]

Can you restrict them to the upstairs and plug in a feliway, as shes scared of them not aggressive she just needs time to realise they are not going to hurt her.
Whatever you do dont force things on her (easy to type i know) she has to accept in her own time

[pinkpandora]

The 2 kittens are for keeps and they do have the run of the house.My problem is that all of downstairs is open plan so I can't shut them out of the kitchen but what I am thinking of doing is feeding them upstairs for the time being just until she gets back into the routine of coming in again.

[Millys Mum]

Are the 2 kittens for keeps or are they a temporary arrangement? Do they have free run in the house?

[Bazsmum]

Hi, When she first arrived she was the new one so everything was already in place, now she has some status in the house its like a role reversal with the new kits....Maybe putting them out of the way for a while for her to get used to them in the house and starting with intro's may be a better solution! 

Do you have a spare room to put the kittens in? If not what about shutting them in whatever room they are in so Jasmine does not feel threatened by them?

Im sure all will calm down once she knows they are not a threat to her! 

[pinkpandora]

Hi Everyone

You may remember that I posted on here a while ago about Junior (Jasmine's brother) who was an ex-feral and had just started going out and I was having problems getting him in - that problem is now resolved and Junior uses the cat flap and comes in of his own accord. My problem now is with Jasmine - she started going out about two weeks ago and it started off very well - she started off like Junior and then after three days I woke up and she was on the end of my bed - she had learnt to use the flap and was coming in the flap lots during the day, chatting to me all the time and sleeping on the bed of a night. Unfortunately, I had no choice but to rescue two three month old kitties last Tuesday and since then things have gone a bit pear shaped with Jasmine.. Funnily enough it was her that accepted all of my other cats when she first got here and quickly made friends but when she came in on the Wednesday one of the babies growled at her and since then she has been afraid of them and I am finding it hard to get her in. I don't want her to be an outdoors cat because she has come on so well and is a beautiful, friendly girl who is very affectionate to me but I don't know what to do for the best. I do manage to pick her up and bring her in but she acts really frightened and can't wait to get out again although she will let me pick her up and cuddle her. She has stopped using the flat and hovers around the back door meowing. I sometimes coax her in with food but more often than not have to coax her to let me pick her up and bring her in. The vet said to keep her indoors so she gets used to the kittens but I don't want to upset her. I feel this is a real set back and am quite upset about it. Jasmine does not go far and more often than not stays in the garden - sometimes when I approach her she runs away. I don't really want to feed her outdoors but also don't want her to go away to find food. Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated as to  how to handle this. Just to mention that Jasmine was always the more timid of the two and took longer to adjust to things than Junior