So Sad

[bonnielass]

Yes Sam told me about it right at the beginning when he first went missing,that seems so long ago now.i will continue to go through the lost and found regs. local rescues  and anything else i can think of

[LeighK]

Hi bonnielass,

So many of us have had experience of pets going missing and we all know what you are going through. There aren't the words to fully express our understanding of how you feel. We all love our pets, I know that years ago when my beloved bridge babe "Oli" went missing for a few days that seemed like months at the time, I was worried sick not knowing where he was. The wonderful thing is that i've read so many happy endings on purrs where the member's cat had returned home safely.

Have you seen this website which has lots of helpful advise:

http://www.soyouhavelostyourcat.co.uk/

 

Leigh

[bonnielass]

Leigh thank you so much for the poem,its got me in  its so beautiful ,i cant begin to discribe what im feeling at the moment,i should be getting on with life but somehow Wizzy is haunting me,i hate myself for feeling like this but something ,s stopping me from moving on, i feel as tho im deserting him if i give up,,over the last 2 years ive lost 2 dogs and 4 cats to various ailments and old age and tho it was heartbreaking  i coped with the pain, i guess its the not knowing thats getting to me,i know there are 100 s of cats going missing every day and i feel for each and everyone who has this to cope with, but they do so why cant i???

[Leanne]

Bonnielass I don't really know what to say other than 

I can't imagine what you're going though at the moment but it must be awful not knowing. 

[LeighK]

Hi bonnielass, so sorry to read about your news and your sadness, many of us here know the worries about missing pets, never give up hope.

A peom by John Keats entitled "To Hope"

When by my solitary hearth I sit,
And hateful thoughts enwrap my soul in gloom;
When no fair dreams before my "mind's eye" flit,
And the bare heath of life presents no bloom;
Sweet Hope, ethereal balm upon me shed,
And wave thy silver pinions o'er my head!

Whene'er I wander, at the fall of night,
Where woven boughs shut out the moon's bright ray,
Should sad Despondency my musings fright,
And frown, to drive fair Cheerfulness away,
Peep with the moonbeams through the leafy roof,
And keep that fiend Despondence far aloof!

Should Disappointment, parent of Despair,
Strive for her son to seize my careless heart;
When, like a cloud, he sits upon the air,
Preparing on his spell-bound prey to dart:
Chase him away, sweet Hope, with visage bright,
And fright him as the morning frightens night!

Whene'er the fate of those I hold most dear
Tells to my fearful breast a tale of sorrow,
O bright-eyed Hope, my morbidfancy cheer;
Let me awhile thy sweetest comforts borrow:
Thy heaven-born radiance around me shed,
And wave thy silver pinions o'er my head!

Should e'er unhappy love my bosom pain,
From cruel parents, or relentless fair;
O let me think it is not quite in vain
To sigh out sonnets to the midnight air!
Sweet Hope, ethereal balm upon me shed,
And wave thy silver pinions o'er my head!

In the long vista of the years to roll,
Let me not see our country's honour fade:
O let me see our land retain her soul,
Her pride, her freedom; and not freedom's shade.
From thy bright eyes unusual brightness shed
Beneath thy pinions canopy my head!

Let me not see the patriot's high bequest,
Great Liberty! how great in plain attire!
With the base purple of a court oppress'd,
Bowing her head, and ready to expire:
But let me see thee stoop from heaven on wings
That fill the skies with silver glitterings!

And as, in sparkling majesty, a star
Gilds the bright summit of some gloomy cloud;
Brightening the half veil'd face of heaven afar:
So, when dark thoughts my boding spirit shroud,
Sweet Hope, celestial influence round me shed,
Waving thy silver pinions o'er my head!

---

Thinking of you 

Leigh

[puddypaws]

Sorry you are feeling so down at the moment.  You definitely need a huge    Things always seem worse at times like Christmas and things but don't give up hope.

[Janeyk]

   I've only just read this and I really feel for you I can only imagine what it must be like, it's hard to know what to say but I would never give up hope either x

[bonnielass]

  to all you lovely people for your words and encouragement,,altho its been 6 months i dont think i will ever completely give up hope of finding him i guess its just with Xmas coming that makes it harder cause Wizzy always used to love the xmas tree with its fibre optic lights twinkling and would spend hours trying to catch them not to mention trying to open the presents under the tree,plus he loved the turkey that we used to share,but i realise life does go on and i know Cally will no doubt help herself to the presents as she loves to rip up paper .                                                                                                                                                                                Talking of Xmas ,on dog pages there is a topic asking for volunteers , to foster over the xmas period   ,,could we do something like that on here, maybe take a bit of pressure off the rescues for a couple of weeks.I know i would be willing as i have 2 weeks off at Xmas, anyway just an idea.                                                                                                           

[Gill (sneakiefeline)]

It must be so hard when a cat goes missing and you have no idea what has happened and I know if one of mine is missing for a short time, panic sets in.

Until you hear otherwise you need to believe that Wizzy is out there still, and hopefully has just found himself somewhere else where he is warm, fed and happy. How he got there may always be a mystery but he also may find his way back home  one day

[Dawn (DiddyDawn)]

I know it must be difficult for you and I think the not knowing is far worse than finding out they've come to the end of their life    At least if you find them, you can find closure but without that, the thoughts are still going round in your head.  I know when I lost 3 of mine one after the other, it took me a good year to come to terms with it but they had been killed so I did eventually have closure.  As others have said, don't give up, there's still a possibility you'll get him back and I'm keeping everything crossed for you.  As for the way you're feeling, I would have a chat to your doctor, I felt a clutz when I went to see mine but he was brilliant with me and tablets did help me cope.  Good luck and I hope you're feeling better soon, xxxxxx   

[clarenmax]

Sorry you are feeling so down today, I understand how hard this must be for you, and you can rest assured that all of us on here can imagine how you are feeling right now 

Don't give up hope hun 

[Angeladeedah]

So many people are so dismissive about the way that a lot of owners connect with their animals.  I have no children either and my cats are therefore my replacement children.  I am constantly ridiculed for the way that I behave about them - although some people often ask about them because they know how I feel about them and they are genuine about it.

It is sooo sad that people do just get rid whenever it suits them - in my eyes a pet is for life and you blooming well should take care of it.  I have heard so many stories over the years of people who are reunited with lost pets - even after many years.   So hopefully, you and Wizzy will be another one of them - stay positive!  Never give up! Don't let others put you down!

[Maddiesmum]

Wasn't there a story about a cat who was found after 9 years recently?  Never give up hope.  I am sorry you are feeling so sad though I can so understand.  You have a good life, your life is as chosen by you and includes your fur babies.  Don't let anyone tell you different.  Big 

[Maxie cat]

You're not alone in the way you feel. Nearly every day I have to deal with people's excuses for not wanting their cats. I couldn't ever imagine getting rid of my cats the way some people do, even if Smudge goes back to peeing around the house or Max tries to be dominant with the others I deal with it. The problem is this throw away culture we live in , the 'I don't want it so I'll just get rid of it' attitude. If only people thought things through more before getting their pets.

Don't loose hope about Wizzy, I recently had a case where a cat walked into his home 7 months after he went missing! And I've known a cat to be reunited with her owner after 2 years!

[Christine (Blip)]

I am sorry to hear how bad you feel today 

Six months is a long time, but our vet was telling me about a cat who was reunited with his human after 18 months.  The man in question had even moved away from his old home, which was down in the west country, but he kept in touch with his former neighbours as he never gave up hope of finding his cat.  One day, a neighbour rang to say that puss had turned up out-of-the-blue in his former back garden, perfectly cheerful and none the worse for wear.

The two were reunited that same day and puss now lives here in Fulham.

It does happen and it could very well happen to you too.  Keep looking.

[bonnielass]

ive come to the conclusion that i must really be a sad and pathetic person,as you know its been a bad year for me in july and august i lost my dog (Meg ) then 4 weeks later Ninja was pts with cancer), that was a very difficult time for me  but the hardest thing to cope with was the lose of Wizzy, he disappeared in april, ive  tried everything to find him including animal communicators, but still nothing,ive sent out 100s of e-mails, made calls ,travelled miles only to be disappointed each time.but somehow i cant give up                                                                     I see all these free sites giving away cats  for silly reasons and it makes me so mad and also sad,i would never give any of my animals away no matter what, maybe thats the problem, i have devoted my life to my cats( all rejects and rescue )i dont go on holiday because of them,altho in my job i get to go to all different places in the uk,people keep telling me to get a life and maybe they are right,but my pets are my life,i dont have any family,they are my children and i love everyone of them and Wizzy disappearing is breaking my heart not knowing if hes gone to the bridge or if hes out there somewhere cold and hungry and alone. The longer it gets the harder it is. Why cant i move on from him????              Just thinking about him is making me cry. I know i cant go on like this but what can i do to make it easier.I try to remember all the good times and love we had but that doesnt help only makes it worse.I need to let go but that means giving up hope.                                                   Im sorry this is so long but im feeling really down today