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In Loving Memory Cats => Rainbow Bridge - In Loving Memory => Topic started by: mad_lilli on December 21, 2015, 11:16:22 AM

Title: My shadow - always by my side
Post by: mad_lilli on December 21, 2015, 11:16:22 AM
Had her at the vet this morning for some old lady checks (she's 16 and a half) and the vet reckons she might have an intestinal tumour. Obviously the prognosis, if this is the case, would not be good. I'm a bit of a wreck now as you can imagine.
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Post by: Dawn F on December 21, 2015, 11:26:39 AM
I'm sorry to hear that, our Oscar had one last year, is she having a scan?
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Post by: mad_lilli on December 21, 2015, 11:34:43 AM
So far they're doing a hefty blood screen. I won't know what's likely to be next until the results are in from that. TBH, at her age, I don't think she'd survive surgery.
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Post by: hollycat on December 21, 2015, 11:43:20 AM


Hope Lilli will be ok  :hug:

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Post by: Sue P (Paddysmum) on December 21, 2015, 12:03:50 PM
My thoughts very much with you both.    :hug:
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Post by: jezebel on December 21, 2015, 12:36:39 PM
Aw, poor Lilli - I  hope the blood tests are clear and she's better soon.
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Post by: Tiggy's Mum on December 21, 2015, 12:48:22 PM
Thinking of you both  :hug: Really hope it's a false alarm  :hug:
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Post by: Cherry24 on December 21, 2015, 13:30:34 PM
I'm sorry to hear this- really hope tests prove negative  :hug:
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Post by: Purdy Bear on December 21, 2015, 15:01:21 PM
Sending lots of healing thoughts to Lilli.

On a side note I had a dog with a bowel tumour and he lasted a good year after diagnosis without any operation.  The Veterinary put it down to our feeding him chunky chicken (chicken in white sauce from Asda), chicken soup and the occasional ginger biscuit (melted in soup), as well as my healing hands.
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Post by: Lyn (Slugsta) on December 21, 2015, 15:37:48 PM
Thinking of you both  :hug:
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Post by: Tigerlily (Allison) on December 21, 2015, 19:35:31 PM
Sending lots of  :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: to you both.
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Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on December 21, 2015, 19:54:24 PM
sending loads and loads of good vibes for Lily  ;D ;D

She is very beautiful and hope for a negative result  :hug: :hug:
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Post by: CarolM (Wendolene) on December 22, 2015, 01:21:56 AM
Sending lots of positive vibes and  :hug: :hug: :hug: to you both.
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Post by: Nicola (RockysMum) on December 22, 2015, 11:23:51 AM
So sorry to hear this. Thinking of you both  :hug:  :hug:
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Post by: Tiggy's Mum on December 23, 2015, 19:49:33 PM
Is there any news on Lilli? Hoping no news is good news  :hug:
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Post by: mad_lilli on December 23, 2015, 22:24:01 PM
I've been travelling home to Belfast today and haven't gotten any results yet. I'm planning to call tm. Thanks everyone. Xxx
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Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on December 24, 2015, 00:26:29 AM
 :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Post by: mad_lilli on December 24, 2015, 11:24:19 AM
Well, the results are in and I'm not much further on!! Kidneys and thyroid are ok. The vet now seems to be leaning towards IBD. She has recommended a paste and B12 shots for 4 weeks and then a scan if no improvement. Anyone familiar with this?
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Post by: maryas on December 24, 2015, 12:08:50 PM
I'm late reading this and so sorry for you and your dear Lilli.  At least some of the news from the vet was good, it's just the unknown that's the worry as we all know.

No info here I'm afraid.  You might be better off sending PM to Liz with all her experience of all sorts of stuff or post in Health section.

GOOD LUCK  :hug: :Luv2:

Mary
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Post by: mad_lilli on December 24, 2015, 12:58:42 PM
Thanks Mary and everyone. Am currently in Belfast with my mother who is advocating PTS without trying anything!!! Aaaargh. Xx
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Post by: maryas on December 24, 2015, 13:56:38 PM
S*D her, she's not a Purrs Family Member  :censored:

If you do need to pts we can all help you get through it BUT as long as she is still having a good life, you can give her love and strength to carry on some more happy years with you  :hug: :hug: :hug:

Talk to us, not her  :Luv2: :hug:

Mary
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Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on December 24, 2015, 17:12:07 PM
S*D her, she's not a Purrs Family Member  :censored:

If you do need to pts we can all help you get through it BUT as long as she is still having a good life, you can give her love and strength to carry on some more happy years with you  :hug: :hug: :hug:

Talk to us, not her  :Luv2: :hug:

Mary

Totally seconded
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Post by: jezebel on December 25, 2015, 15:34:06 PM
Thirded!
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Post by: maryas on December 27, 2015, 15:44:45 PM
Any news?  :hug:

Mary
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Post by: mad_lilli on December 27, 2015, 23:19:01 PM
My petsitter Jess, took Lilli back to the vets today as her digestive issues have worsened and she was hiding away. The vets have kept her in and are giving her IV fluids & antibiotics. It's even harder for me to deal with  because I'm away in Belfast. I hate to think of her wondering where I am  :'( :'( 
Jess and her mum have been amazing though. I'd recommend them in a heartbeat.
I'm glad I have food in my freezer and plenty of baked beans because January is likely to be very cash poor............but we do anything we can for our babies.
 I'll have her 14 years in February if she makes it and she's literally my shadow.   :Luv2:
Thanks peeps. It's great to know you are all like minded and not thinking I'm nuts to be so upset.
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Post by: maryas on December 28, 2015, 14:56:50 PM
Nothing nuts about it and never think that way  :hug: :hug:

She is in the best place for her and getting the treatment she needs.  When are you back home?

I think we have all got or had a cat that shadows us and we feel lost without them.  I know when I had to make the big decision with Bonnie in April it was like having my right arm chopped off.

You know we all understand and we are all sending healing vibes to Lilli  :hug: :Luv2: :hug:

Mary  :hug:
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Post by: mad_lilli on December 28, 2015, 15:39:15 PM
Keep the vibes coming everybody, there's been an improvement!!! She's now eating well and they're planning to take her off the IV fluids & antibiotics. She'll be getting oral antibiotics instead. Apparently she's really bright and is asking for fusses. Lilli has always been a cantankerous  :censored: with everyone apart from me, but since she's gotten older, she's less cranky!!!
I know what you mean about Bonnie, I think we all felt like we'd lost her so for you it was heartbreaking. 
I get back to England on Thursday lunchtime and the vets will probably have her there til then. I'm not back to work until Jan 4th, so I'll be able to keep an eye on her myself.
Thanks everyone. Xxxxx
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Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on December 28, 2015, 15:39:44 PM
I hope you are back home soon cos I am sure just seeing you again will help....................both of you  :hug: :hug:
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Post by: Lyn (Slugsta) on December 28, 2015, 16:09:56 PM
Thanks for the update, I bet you can't wait to see Lilli again!  :hug:
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Post by: mad_lilli on December 28, 2015, 17:08:52 PM
I'm just so relieved that I'm actually gonna see her again, as I was beginning to think I might not. I get back to England around 2 on New Year's Eve. Much cuddling will be had!!! I would fly back now if I could afford to!!!
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Post by: Tigerlily (Allison) on December 28, 2015, 17:52:03 PM
Sending out lots of good vibes for Lilli and  :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: for you.
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Post by: hollycat on December 29, 2015, 14:25:18 PM



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Post by: Judecat (Paula) on December 30, 2015, 00:50:44 AM
Sending you and Lilli many :hug: :hug: :hug: and positive thoughts

Paula xxx
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Post by: maryas on December 30, 2015, 17:19:20 PM
Fantastic news  :hug:

Demanding hugs is great  :rofl: :rofl:  It's good that she will have been off the drip and onoral antibiotics before you get to see her as the vet might have a better idea of how she is responding.  A fantastic start to 2016 for you both  :hug: :Luv2:

Mary
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Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on January 01, 2016, 00:38:19 AM
Hope you have seen her and had cuddles and she is doing well  :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Post by: maryas on January 01, 2016, 00:56:08 AM
Kitty tells me that Lilli's been in cat section and sounds brill  :hug: :Luv2: :Luv2:  So pleased for you both  :hug:

Mary
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Post by: Sue P (Paddysmum) on January 01, 2016, 07:33:46 AM
 :Luv: :Luv:
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Post by: mad_lilli on January 02, 2016, 13:40:43 PM
Hi all
Just back from the vets and had to let Lilli go. She waited for me to come back from Belfast, but she couldn't stay any longer. I'll miss her so much, I know you all know how I feel. I'll be back soon to write a tribute to my shadow.
Bronagh
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Post by: Sue P (Paddysmum) on January 02, 2016, 13:50:30 PM
Oh Bronagh  :care:

I'm so sad that you've had to let her go, but am glad that you were able to be with her. 

Swift journey to the Bridge Lilli.  Give them attitude with a capital "C"
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Post by: hollycat on January 02, 2016, 13:59:42 PM


So sorry Bronagh  :hug:
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Post by: jezebel on January 02, 2016, 15:11:20 PM
Oh no, that's so sad, so very sorry.
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Post by: CarolM (Wendolene) on January 02, 2016, 17:48:50 PM
I'm so sorry to hear the sad news Bronagh but pleased that Lily waited so she could say goodbye to you.  :hug: :hug: :hug: 
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Post by: Purdy Bear on January 02, 2016, 18:25:22 PM
Run free Lilly at the Rainbow Bridge Fields, and get nice and snuggling in one of the cottages on the armchair by the fire.
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Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on January 02, 2016, 19:35:24 PM
I am so sorry but at least you were able to send her to the Bridge with love  :hug: :hug: :hug:

RIP Lilli play hard on the Bridge
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Post by: Liz on January 02, 2016, 22:58:51 PM
She waited for you to come home so you could make the final journey with her, so sorry for your loss x
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Post by: Rosella moggy on January 03, 2016, 09:31:48 AM
Am so very sorry you lost your shadow Bronagh  :( :( :(

RIP darling angel Lilli  :( :( :(
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Post by: Judecat (Paula) on January 03, 2016, 11:36:05 AM
Bronagh, I am so sorry for your loss, I feel your pain and loss for you. :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Post by: pappilon on January 03, 2016, 12:11:29 PM
 I am so sorry :( :(

RIP beautiful Lilli  :hug: :hug:
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Post by: Tiggy's Mum on January 03, 2016, 17:54:35 PM
Very sorry to hear this Bronagh  :hug: I hope you're able to take some small comfort from being there with her to let her go  :hug:

RIP Lilli, safe and sound at the Bridge by now xx
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Post by: maryas on January 03, 2016, 19:44:34 PM
NO, I really thought she was gonna be with you for a few more years  :'(

So glad you got to say goodbye and Lilli knew you was doing the kindest thing you could ever do for her  :hug: :Luv2:

Take your time and talk when you are ready, as you say, we all know how you feel  :hug: :hug:

Mary
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Post by: maddercow on January 03, 2016, 20:04:41 PM
Really sorry to read this, so sad for you.

Xx
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Post by: Tigerlily (Allison) on January 03, 2016, 20:09:05 PM
Such sad news Bronagh but glad you were able to be with her at the end  :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

RIP Lilli  :(
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Post by: Julz (Winnie's Meowmy) on January 03, 2016, 23:43:40 PM
Really sorry to hear this Bronagh,

:candle:  :RIP: :grouphug: dear Lilli

Julz 'nd Winnie xx
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Post by: Susanne (urbantigers) on January 04, 2016, 08:43:57 AM
So sorry you had to let her go but pleased you were able to see her again  :hug:

RIP Lilli.  play hard at the bridge with all the other Purrs bridge babes
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Post by: mad_lilli on January 04, 2016, 15:13:29 PM
Almost 14 years ago, you and your brother Dante chose to come & live with me. Sadly, Dante went to the Bridge 18 months later aged 15. Then we had 2 new friends come to stay - Marli (still here!!) and D'arcy (at the bridge). We were all happy together (once you got control of the other 2) and you were always beside me, even sleeping on the pillow beside mine. We moved to our new house in April 2007. Shortly after that we lost D'arcy to HCM (aged 6). Then Teddy joined us and you soon put him in his place. You remained beside me. Then we accidentally acquired Cooper. You weren't fussed on him, but he obeyed the house rules until he disappeared in Sept 2011. And then the tiny tangerine terror came along and you looked on whilst she drove Marmalade crazy!! (this has not changed 4 years later!!!) Crystal too acknowledged your position in the household, but occasionally needed putting in her place. During 2012 - 2014, I went through a tough time with work and health and you must have sensed how bad I felt and you never left my side.
2014, you really started to show your age (15 by now) and you had a 'funny turn' in December. We have no idea what it was, but you rallied. You turned 16 in August 2015 (along with your birthday sister Marmalade). In November, you weren't feeling great, but again you rallied and throughout, you were by my side.
On December 21st, you told me you weren't well, so we went to the vets. They ran some tests that came back clear and so I went to Belfast for Christmas. Your Aunties Jess & Liz were taking care of you. Auntie Liz, loved you like one of her own.
But you started to feel very poorly indeed on Boxing Day and on Sunday, Aunty Liz and Aunty Jess took you to the out of hours vet - Ciara. You were popped on a drip and given antibiotics and "speshul fuds". And again, you rallied. I flew back to England on NY Eve and brought you home. We saw in 2016 together and I was by your side. On Saturday Jan 2nd, you wouldn't have any food, even your favourites tuna or butter and you were suddenly drinking loads of water. So with a very heavy heart we went to see Ciara. You had lost .3 kg in a week and you didn't have that to lose. Now Aunty Ciara could feel a lump where your kidney stopped. She hadn't been able to feel that even the few days before.
So I had to make the most awful decision to let you rest. So off you went to the Bridge and I'm so grateful I was by your side.

I will miss you forever. You were my shadow, always by my side and I miss you desperately. You'll hopefully have met my dad & nanny by now and all of your fur brothers & sisters.
I couldn't bear to have your ashes (not withstanding the fact that the tiny tangerine terror would knock them over!!) so instead I will be having a tattoo (my first one!!) to celebrate your life & love.

So, until we meet again, run free with your fur friends old & new.


RIP my angel, there's a gap by my side now.
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Post by: mad_lilli on January 04, 2016, 15:16:29 PM
Thank you all so much for your hugs & support. I'm still very raw, but have managed to write a tribute in Rainbow Bridge.


B
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Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on January 04, 2016, 18:56:40 PM
Beautiful tribute to your much loved best friend  :hug: :hug:

RIP Lilli you will always be a purr in your meowmys heart
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Post by: Tigerlily (Allison) on January 04, 2016, 19:59:46 PM
Lovely tribute Bronagh  :hug: :hug: :hug:

RIP sweet Lilli  :( :(
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Post by: maryas on January 04, 2016, 20:55:45 PM
Lilli will have so many friends at The Bridge, all very healthy and she will have lots of butter and tuna I am sure. :Luv2:

Bonnie and the rest of the Purrs cats will be there to catch up on all the gossip of course  ;)

Mary and Kitty xx
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Post by: hollycat on January 05, 2016, 00:34:37 AM


Lovely tribute Bronagh  :hug:

Run free and play hard on the bridge Lilli
Title: Re: My shadow - always by my side. Run free Lilli. Xx
Post by: mad_lilli on January 06, 2016, 22:35:19 PM
Marmalade seems to be missing you Lilli. You weren't particularly close, but you'd been in her life for 12 years. She's off her food and when she's not right beside me, she's in your spot under the spare bed.
Miss you so much old girl. Xxxxx
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Post by: Tigerlily (Allison) on January 07, 2016, 20:37:56 PM
 :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Post by: Nicola (RockysMum) on January 08, 2016, 12:21:05 PM
A lovely tribute  :hug:  :hug:

Play hard on the bridge Lilli
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Post by: alisonandarchie on January 10, 2016, 22:30:25 PM
Beautiful words :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Post by: mad_lilli on January 18, 2016, 19:25:05 PM
Massively struggling this pass few days Lil. Miss you very badly. The girls and even Ted are being very affectionate, but there's no one in your spot or on your pillow in bed.  I still look for you when I come home and I still wake up at Dreamies o'clock. I hope you've met up with some furpals and know we all love you & miss you. Xxxxx
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Post by: Tigerlily (Allison) on January 19, 2016, 20:25:04 PM
 :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Post by: Nicola (RockysMum) on January 20, 2016, 10:22:00 AM
 :hug:  :hug:
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Post by: mad_lilli on January 20, 2016, 19:57:43 PM
I stumbled across this last night. I struggle to read it, but wow.  :'(
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Post by: Nicola (RockysMum) on January 21, 2016, 20:31:44 PM
 :hug:  :hug: A friend sent that to me when I lost the first of my boys & it broke my heart. So sad.
But it's so true, it's the heartbreak we take on isn't it? Knowing that they will go before us.
But so very worth it for us and our cats - because we gain so much from them & we give them wonderful lives in return. Like you did with Lilli x
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Post by: Gill (sneakiefeline) on January 21, 2016, 21:48:49 PM
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Post by: Janeyk on January 22, 2016, 07:56:31 AM
So sorry, RIP Lilli xx