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Cat Rescue & Rehoming => Rescue & Rehoming General => Topic started by: Pinkbear (Julie) on December 08, 2009, 13:17:42 PM
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I was absolutely fuming yesterday and still not calmed down. :tired:
Recieved a phone message from a very posh sounding lady. The first thing she says is "I'm a member of your branch..." Membership of our branch costs £5.50 a year... so best I roll out the red carpet then! :wow: :rofl: Next thing she says is "I'm in a nursing home and someone who is also a member ( :wow: ) was supposed to be contacting you about taking in my cats". :tired: :shify: "Please can you call me as no one seems to have done anything"
So I call the lady. Duchess La Di Dar type. Waves money around and expects everyone to grovel type. :doh: She tells me that she's been in the nursing home for a while and that Violet (???) has been going in to feed her cats every day. She then tells me that I should know Violet as she's a lovely girl and the best Dog Walker in Herne Bay. Oh sure, I know all the Dog Walkers in Kent!! :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: Anyway, she tells me that Violet now says the cats are unapproachable and the lady now thinks it's might be kindest to put them to sleep. >:( >:( >:(
I ask how long these cats have been living in an empty house, answer.... THREE YEARS!!!! Poor little :censored: have had no contact with anyone since then. They are now more or less completely feral. :( I can imagine the Dog Walker is very happy to continue feeding them as she's charging Madam a hefty sum! >:( Nice little earner that. :sneaky:
My question is this.... how on EARTH does this person not see she has completely let her cats down??? She has caused great suffering and neglect and ALL the time she was patting herself on the back as she was paying subscriptions to us! She truly thought she was properly providing for her cats by paying someone to chuck a tin of Kitekat on the floor once a day! :Crazy:
I have no idea what to do now as I can't get into the house without someone else there. 'Madam' can't remember Violet's phone number but "It's alright, Violet will be around on Thursday to see me and collect her money..." Yeah, I'm sure she will. :boxer:
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Oh my god that is awful! Dont people realise that cats are not (unless feral) animals that can be left by themselves, they need human contact, to be talked to, stroked loved....Food in there bellies is important but what about their feelings!!!
Stupid woman....Leaving them for 3yrs with only being fed is not on!!! >:( :( :hug:
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3 years! Those poor cats....I'm not surprised you're fuming, Julie. Hope something can be sorted for them. :hug:
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I should add I didn't want to give the impression I don't appreciate our supporters in general. The vast majority are nice folks. :naughty: But when we have to deal with them when they want help, they really do think it entitles them to extra special service. :tired: Well I give the odd few bob to the local air ambulance.. Should I ever need to use it I don't expect it to fly any faster though! :rofl: I'd have rather she kept her :censored: fiver and did something about rehoming her cats WAY before this!! >:(
I really am stumped now. I can't see them coming round after all this time. :( Looks like they will need a feral home. :(
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That is terrible >:( hope you can sort them out Julie :hug:
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is she a bit senile maybe??
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This is so sad....Maybe there is someone out there with a ton of patience, Im sure things like the radio in the background, lights going on and off, heat and humans to view would help!!! Argh! So awful for the babes!!! They have been let down! >:( :( :hug:
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how sad, and how unnecessary
surely she could have found a lodger who would have looked after the cats properly for a reduction in rent
there must be loads of folk around who would be only too happy with such an arrangement
any chance you know of a candidate who you could put forward to the Duchess, Julie?
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Sadly no, Trigger. I suspect she'd decided to sell the house and that's probably why she picked up the phone herself. :tired: She might well be a bit loopy and thought she was doing the right thing but she's surrounded by people who are not dim. :innocent:
The person I want to have a word with the most is this Dog Walker girl. Surely if you make a living from animals you must have some kind of empathy with them? :shocked: Sure she realised they were being neglected and to allow it to go for this long is callous! >:( Sounds to me as if all this girl was interested was taking the money. :mad2:
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Words genuinly fail me with this, poor babes, they have been let down by everyone, particularly this Violet character who should surely know better?!
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I only wondered if she was senile because maybe the three years thing is wrong?? like you say the dog walker should have the answers
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I was thinking the exact same thing about the walker Julie...Obviously no real thought about the animals just a way to make money!!! >:( :( :hug:
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When I first moved here, we used some cat feeders when we went away for the weekend for a wedding (the only time we have been away in 5 years :Crazy: ). One of them was called violet. I would have thought it unlikely there was more than one person under 90 called violet living in Herne Bay - especially one that feeds cats. :evillaugh: so I still have her number in my phone if you would like to speak to her Julie :shify:
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When I first moved here, we used some cat feeders. One of them was called violet. I would have thought it unlikely there was more than one person under 90 called violet living in Herne Bay :evillaugh: so I still have her number in my phone if you would like to speak to her Julie :shify:
:wow: BINGO!! Did you get copied on the emails yesterday so you'll have the name of the old dear and address these cats are living at? :shify: Can't hurt to ask if it's the same person? :shy:
I don't think she was mistaken about the length of time, Dawn. She maybe out by a few months but she was adament it was 3 years and seemed sharp enough to answer questions about other things. Our branch secretary confirmed she's a member and renewed recently using her old address. It would be lovely to think she's got the dates confused but I don't think so. :tired:
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If she really has been in the home for 3 years then I think Violet should be taken out and shot. This is an appalling situation. Good luck with trying to sort it out :hug:
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If this is the case then were have the cats been living, inside the house? and do they have a dirt tray or are they left to their own devises i dread to think what state the house is in :sick:
I do hope this lady maybe a bit confused and you can establish the facts soon. Good luck :hug:
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Julie now has Violet's number - it has been in my phone for nearly 5 years but we are hoping she has kept the same mobile number given that she uses it for business.
Julie, btw, I do have the emails you sent yesterday and I googled the woman's name and it appears she is a committee organiser of the local catholic church. our lady immaculate (hair & nails) figures :tired:
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UPDATE!!!
Mark's hunch was right! It was the same Violet! :yayyy:
Yes she confirms it IS three years! :Crazy: BUT... there is only ONE cat, a black female called Trill. Aged 5 years. The other Tabby tom this lady told me about is actually NOT this woman's cat but a neighbourhood feral who has other food sources and other shelter. He just comes into the conservatory and take advantage of a bit of free food. :evillaugh:
Violet says Trill can be cuddled, purrs readily and she can easily pick her up, although does not know what she'd be like with strangers. Violet does spend as long as she can making a fuss of Trill each day but admits this is NOT an ideal situation and indeed she has been pressing the old dear to do something about Trill for some time. It's come to the crunch now as the old dear has FINALLY realised she won't be returning home. :tired:
I am off now to find a place somewhere as I'm determined the cats will NOT be spending Christmas on her own ever again. :(
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Let us know how Trill gets on. Poor girl, she must wait for her visits from Violet. :(
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Good news about the cat still being handleable! Hope a space can be found soon! :Luv2: :hug:
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poor little thing, three years - fingers crossed Trill spends a Christmas in company this year
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Great news :) although poor little Trill needs a home quickly :'( - Lets hope we can find her a nice old lady that will be with her 24/7 like the one I did a HC on a couple of weeks back. I can't imagine what it must be like for a domestic cat being alone for 23+ hours a day. Just looking across at Alice and she needs company so much - she doesn't even like me being at the other side of the room.
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there's another story here, though, and we have been, I think, a bit harsh
this old lady must have been dreaming of getting back to her own home and wanted her cat there when she did - she must have loved Trill to go to these lengths over 3 years, and although she was not acting in Trill's best interests, it is still sad for her
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Well done to all concerned so not as bad as it could of been but bad enough, quite a sad situation really. Hope Trill can be found a home soon.
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there's another story here, though, and we have been, I think, a bit harsh
this old lady must have been dreaming of getting back to her own home and wanted her cat there when she did - she must have loved Trill to go to these lengths over 3 years, and although she was not acting in Trill's best interests, it is still sad for her
True, trigger. It's good to see the other side of the situation from time to time. ;) Hope Trill gets a safe new home quickly, though.
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there's another story here, though, and we have been, I think, a bit harsh
this old lady must have been dreaming of getting back to her own home and wanted her cat there when she did - she must have loved Trill to go to these lengths over 3 years, and although she was not acting in Trill's best interests, it is still sad for her
This is an all-too-common tale and I have heard it quite a few times, where people refuse to believe that they will be leaving hospital or similar. We had a case a couple of years ago with 2 cats that had been in the cattery for over 6 months. Luckily Sharn contacted the solicitor in charge of the owners affairs and had the cats signed over to us. They were rehomed by some lovely people and both died within months of each other the following year :'(. One of them was sunning herself in the garden when she went rather than stuck in a pen. I remember one was called Tibby but can't remember the other ones name. The other was called Wendy :Luv2:
This was the message we received which showed how loved she was and why it was so important her last months were happy.
"I'm sorry to have to tell you that Wendy died earlier today. She had suddenly got very old-looking in the past three weeks or so, very frail, so we knew she didn't have much longer.
She came out into the garden with me to sit in the sun, and have a cuddle and soak up the rays, and when I looked a bit later she was dead. We've buried her next to Mr Tibbs (Tibby), and will plant more bulbs later in the year.
She seemed quite at ease, no rictus or signs of distress."
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Yes nice to look at the other side sometimes.....I know I would be reluctant....Still say 3yrs is overboard though! :hug:
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At least this is not as bad as we all originally thought, and I do think its awfully sad if this is the lady's situation, that she'd been wanting to go home, and has just finally realised its not going to happen :(
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Good point, Trigger. :hug: But I do wish someone would have made her come to terms quicker than this. :innocent:
It's funny that we always get a Christmas story in our branch and this seems to be this years. :) All we need now is the placement. :tired: I've emailed everyone and hopefully if we can't fit Trilll in, maybe Sharon's mafia network might work, :evillaugh:
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when word went out on the jungle telegraph that I was looking to take on a rescue cat, a near neighbour asked me if I would be interested in her mother's cat
mother lived at other end of village, and was in hospital
but while I was introducing myself to the cat, and after daughter had gone home, neighbour came round and told me mother was hoping to come home soon, and would be devasted if cat no longer there - and meanwhile cat was living most of the time with her, and could have a home with her if necessary
seems daughter just wanted to stop bothering about the cat, and paying for her food >:(
the moral of which, I suppose, is never believe just one side of a story, and the upshot for me is Tosker sleeping happily in front of the fire :Luv:
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After an afternoon spent on the phone trying to glean further information I have found the registered vet. :shy:
Trill is in fact a BOY aged 13 year and 7 months. Hasn't been seen by the vet since 2003. :'(
Does anyone want an oldie for Christmas? I'm having no joy finding a place yet. :wish:
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Does anyone want an oldie for Christmas? I'm having no joy finding a place yet. :wish:
Just as well I'm way up North - this story is a more extreme version of the one that led to me taking in Tiny on Christmas Eve 1999. He was said to be a 6 year old girl but the vet decided he was at least double that. It was supposed to be a temporary arrangement but we had 4 wonderful years together before he went to the bridge and it wasn't nearly long enough.
Poor Trill :Luv2: - good luck with finding him a place :hug:
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So not such a caring owner after all :tired:
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So Trill is a pure black boy? :Luv: Age is relative; Trill might not feel his age. ;)
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Yep, by the vet's records Trill is a pure black boy aged 13 and 7 months. I was taking Violet's word as more accurate than the old lady.... I don't think Violet knows much about cats. :innocent:
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She was maybe told the cat was younger by Margaret?
It is so frustrating as there must be lots of people spending christmas all alone and a purring bundle of fluff on their lap on xmas day would make so much difference. I remember the lady last year (I think) who had lost her husband and then her cat. She said she was more upset when the cat died than the husband :evillaugh: - she also said that there was no meaning to her day. She said getting up to feed the cat and sort the tray out was a good reason to get up in the morning. She said she needed to feel needed. (she had a little cry about her cat :'( )
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that's why I worry about the increasing trend of rescues using the internet, which many old ladies, unlike me ( ;)) don't use
a few 'home wanted' notices in places like day centres could match up a few golden oldies
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Though I am not out there and really do not know many of you, I thought I would drop in here and give you my 2 cents (or would it be 2 pence there?) worth of thought. My thoughts come cheap you see.
I have found there are 2 types main pet owners (at least here).
Type 1: People who consider the adoption of a pet a binding contract and will do everything in their power to fulfill their obligation to care for, board, love and befriend the pet.
Type 2: People who consider animals to be property.
Just because you are a type 2 does not mean you do not “love” your pet. It more means that they are property. These people see nothing wrong with:
1. Moving to a no-pets-allowed apartment/flat or lease. They will just give up their pet.
2. Placing their monetary needs first. If they own an expensive couch they will have the pets claws ripped out in a most inhumane manor. Declawing is wrong, though I believe I heard it rarely happened there in the UK?
3. If they grow tired of the pet they see nothing wrong with swapping it out for a newer model.
4. The pet is jewelry. An accessory to be carried around and flaunted as a status symbol.
5. Putting a pet to sleep because they soil the floor or carpet almost daily. Considering this a medical or emotional problem needing to be addressed does not enter into their minds.
This lady sounds like a type 2 to me. In her defense, she may have believed she was caring and loving by having someone feed them while she was in the nursing home. She does not see the emotional side from the cat’s eyes in this. Sadly I see this attitude all the time in Montana, where people have no problem with placing their 3 dogs in the back of a pick-up truck and then driving From Helena to Townsend at 85mph. I have personally witnessed the possible sad aftermath of this. :(
But in this ladies world, she is a good person. Before we judge her too harshly keep several things in mind:
1. She is old. With age comes being set in your ways and mental attitude changes. At her age you won’t change her. When my grandfather (god rest his soul) would talk down on the “modern” female and blacks, I had shrug and let it go. He was over 90 (died at 99) and what would be able to change his set in ways short of a frontal lobotomy?
2. She may have been brought up with property pets and always had them and knows no other way or better.
3. It is impossible to get the full picture in a short time.
Look at the bright side here.
1. Fate made you aware of the situation for a reason. Now you have the ability to act upon this and help these cats by locating them a good home.
2. This lady’s house must be a mess now and stink, unless she also has someone to go there and scoop litter boxes, clean them and more. She will soon get her comeuppance via a depreciated home value.
Anyway, my thoughts. :) And I do feel for the cats and find her attitude wrong.
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. Declawing is wrong, though I believe I heard it rarely happened there in the UK
Thankfully it is illegal in Europe without there being sound medical reasons for it (expensive furniture is not a good reason :shify: ). I have never seen or heard of a declawed cat in the UK.
I agree with your points. Some people see cats as property rather than family members. I suppose there are also a lot of people that fall between these two extremes as well. I hear so many stories (as a volunteer with cats protection) of people who are quite happy to rehome a cat they may have had for 10 years or more because they bought a puppy and the dog doesn't like the cat. I am amazed that people can spend so long with an animal and not develop some kind of emotion bond :Crazy:
I also agree with the comments about some older people. One of my family members thinks everyone from Eastern europe is a thieving gyspy although I have told her so many times that most are better educated and well adjusted than the average Brit. :evillaugh: (ps - this family member is 2nd generation German Jewish :Crazy: )
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I think I heard of one declawed cat since I started rescue - a puss imported from America. :shy:
It's a generation thing with this old lady coupled with an inability to keep up with progress and education. When she was my age even if you tried to be a responsible owner, most cats went to the vet twice in their lives - once to be neutered at six months and the final time around 12-13 for PTS at the first sign of age related problems. It was the norm. If they happened to get unlucky inbetween and got injured, mostly it was PTS unless a very simple injury. Vet science was in the middle ages compared to now and most vets couldn't treat things we take for granted now.... cats were NEVER routinely supported through CRF or heart problems for instance. Waste of money as the treatments were so primative and it probably only added a few months onto the inevitable. :tired:
I think she does want to do the right thing by Trill but doesn't have a clue about what responsible ownership means in 2009. To her she was being noble by paying out for months and months on end to 'provide' for Trill. It wasn't enough though, but she'll never see that. :'(
Thankfully our welfare officer Caroline has shoved and squeezed and as soon as I've arrange to move on a couple of ferals to the turkey farm, Trill can come in probably next week. She'll be spending Christmas with Sharn at her cattery and will get lots of fusses and Christmas dinner surrounded by love! :briggin:
It does mean that YET AGAIN our list gets longer and planned admissions delayed but nothing else could be done... :innocent:
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Julie I think your first post it totally out of order !
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Hmm, being so new I hope I am not stepping on toes. I do not think Julie’s initial post was a bad one. The emotional aspect of what she dealt with came out. It was an honest initial reaction. I can fully understand her reaction as I can get like that as well. In fact I decided to locate a specific post I left on a cat related site on March 4th 2004. It was full of emotion and anger as well. Here it is:
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Some people have no right to have animals. I am going to go as far as saying they have no right to live!
I went to our association meeting this evening (I am on the board) and the new president had the meeting at his home. I saw a small cat on his deck laying there sunning himself and I asked what the cat’s name was. He took me outside to meet the cat, who promptly got up, standing at a very sharp angle, and held his head at an odder angle. He then tried to run off as best he could (which was not in a straight line, more like a dunk trying to run). I noticed he only has about a ¼ of a tail and I asked what happened to him. In a nutshell…
Remember this January when I posted how cold it was and I was worried for Copycat? We had about 10 days of nighttime high temps at -40f (forty below zero)? Well, this damn a**ho** went away, leaving his 2 cats and dog OUTSIDE! This cat is about 1 year old (by what he told me) now, so it was 9 months old! He was left with his SISTER WHO DIED! This cat’s tail froze and had to be removed!!!!!!!! The dog managed though. They have a dog house for them… NOT HEATED! So this putz was gone for 2 weeks leaving these animals in 40 below nights and 20 below day highs with NO FOOD OR WATER!!!!!!!!
The cat walks like it does because his dog bit him on the head, blinding him in one eye and his teeth went through the skull!!! He laughed about it saying that the dog did not mean it, he was just laying.
Oh, and the animals were left outside because he does not let animals in the house at all. Too much hair and a mess to clean he says. THEN WHY THE HELL DOES HE HAVE THEM!?!? (oh, and his house was a huge pigsty inside anyway!) I am so upset and sad for the cat and angry at this jerk I will likely tender my resignation as a board member rather than have to ever see his face again!
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In the end I tendered my resignation and avoided Scott till he finally moved. Would I likely have the same reaction if it just happened last night? Damn right I would. Was it emotional? Yes. In the end I (and Julie) used the board to vent and spew. It actually helps me ground and see things from a new perspective.
So I was not upset of offended in any way by her post. It shows passion and caring and a need to vent. :)
Julie I think your first post it totally out of order !
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Hi Mark,
I am so very glad that declawing is not legal in Europe. Sadly out here you can hardly swing a clawed cat in a room without hitting 5 declawed ones. *joking people, I would never swing a clawed cat*
And yes there are many levels between the 2 types of owners, but some I would not count as an “owner”.
1. The parent who buys a pet for their child. No one now owns the pet and a child certainly does not have the wisdom or understanding to handle a “forced” ownership. Parents should NEVER buy pets “for the kids”.
2. The person who gifts a pet to someone. AS well intentioned as that may be it is simply a bad idea and puts the recipient in a situation that had they wanted to be in WOULD be in on their own. Pets should not be gifted.
3. A pet owner marries or moved in with a non owner. The second party may not be a willing owner or a responsible one. Too often I have seen that lead to the pet being the one to be forced out. :(
My sister married a Jewish guy and she converted. I have now been to a bat mitzvah, and 2 bar mitzvahs (last one was 3 weeks ago).I always have the greatest conversations with my brother-in-law.
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I completely understand Julie's post. When you are dealing with calls like this all day, it can be really frustrating - especially when we can't really speak our minds to people. People try to blackmail us when we say we are full at the moment by saying things like "Oh well, if you can't help, I will have to get the cat put to sleep"
Another one I had recently was a woman complaining that a stray was bothering her and her cat. I told her we could put her name on the list - she wasn't happy and expected us to go straight there and remove her problem. She phoned again a week later (so I took the call again :evillaugh: ) and behaved as if she had never spoken to us and asked if she could borrow a trap. Eventually, she admitted that she wanted to catch the cat and dump it elsewhere - she didn't get the loan :tired:
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I just feel that some of the things said in the first post were not nessassary !
I do understand that when you are faced with this sort of thing day in and day out that you because highly charged
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If a reader choose to read on through the thread they would have seen that as I became calmer I retracted some of my words and altered my approach. I am forced to do that every single day in rescue as I am not allowed to get upset for too long. :tired:
Other rescuers often vent their frustrations about cruelty/neglect cases on this forum as we've become used to this forum as being the one place we could find people who understood and sympathised - why not me and why not today? :shy: I apologise to anyone I caused offence to but I expect equal criticism to be metered out to other rescues in future. :innocent:
I will go back to organising the rescue of this cat and leave the debate there I think. :)
A big thanks for those messages of support guys. It really does mean a lot to know someone understands. :thanks: :hug: :hug:
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CoolCyberCats - i don''t know how you didn''t thump him to be honest - believe it or not i am not in any way violent -but people like that man do not deserve to breathe ,let alone have animals -i hope someone takes that poor cat away from him - that is so awful and sad for the poor cat .
What a complete :censored: :censored: :censored: :censored: :censored:
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Maybe I over reacted abit but I felt it did read rudly.
and oh yes I bet the PM's were flying....... ;)
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as someone who is not in rescue, but has had an elderly mother with a cat, and who is at an age when I have to give half a thought to what would happen to mine should I cease to be able to care for them, this thread has been thought-provoking - despite the little disagreements along the way ;)
I think there is no doubt a lot of older people take their cats more for granted than we do - and in my case I have to add the word 'now' to that statement
I left my first kitten alone in my house while I commuted to London from 6.30am to gone 7pm 5 days a week and thought nothing of it - and of course she was fine - now I would not be allowed to take on a kitten from a rescue living like that
and I fed her entirely on home-cooked meat and fish - no dry, no supplements, no additives - she died suddenly at 14 and a half, having never
been ill, cause unknown
how that younger self would be criticized now - so I can see that older people must be cut some slack over their attitude towards their pets - it isn't that they don't care, but that they don't know the latest thing in cat care
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bunglycat,
Believe me, it was not easy to stay calm. But the damage had been done and there was not a lot I could do. It sounds horribe for me to say that, but before someone jumps all over me listen a second. The laws here would prevent me from taking the cat. If I did I wold be up against some serious fines. The cats are "property" and it is stealing. Believe me I sat and debated the whole issue by myself and with others and realized that it would do more harm than good to have me in court. I do a lot of help raise donation money here and time away from that is less money to help other cats and animals. ALso, this guy has a fenced yard and secutiry cameras, which I did check out to see the viability of getting around them and not be seen. Even had I been able to do that, I would have his dogs waiting for me on the other side. In the end a call to the sherif did nothing at all but make them laugh.
The frustration of that time still haunts me. Believe me. :(
Now, I must ask something off topic. I have seen posts talking about PM's. What are PMs? Something tells me it is not "post meridiem". ;)
CoolCyberCats - i don''t know how you didn''t thump him to be honest - believe it or not i am not in any way violent -but people like that man do not deserve to breathe ,let alone have animals -i hope someone takes that poor cat away from him - that is so awful and sad for the poor cat .
What a complete :censored: :censored: :censored: :censored: :censored:
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I will send you a pm LOL
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Hi CoolCyberCats, in all that goings on I forgot to welcome you! :welcome:
PMs = Personal Messages. You'll see a short cut to your message system at the top of your screen next your profile details. ;) It's not always like this here. You caught us on a bad day I think! :rofl:
Even I can see times they are a changing, Trigger, at the ripe age of 44. :evillaugh: I'd be left behind if I didn't have my finger on the pulse... I sad as much in one of my previous posts on this thread. :shy: I recall my first ever rescue... a scrawny little tabby hissy-spit who was absolutely RANK with just about ever parasite you can think of. :sick: There was no Frontline, no panacur... but he was so riddled with fleas they were drinking him to death. :(
I called the vet and the vet told me he'd PTS for free as a gesture as 'wild kittens are always riddled with diseases' >:( My only option was to bath him in dog flea shampoo... I can see the thick ring of dead fleas in the sink after I drained it now. :sick: I took the ringing wet little mite and towel dried him, tucked him inside my big fluffy Bunny rabbit slipper and put him in the airing cupboard to dry. :innocent: I'd be strung up for doing that now. :doh: But he grew up to be a massive strapping Tom and loved me to bits until he died peacefully aged 17. :Luv2:
So yes I accept an older person would not automatically think to take their cats to the vet for regular check ups and people have only started to do it in recent years. ;)
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Pm = personal message - just click on a name and you can send them a message without anyone else seeing it .
As i said -some people don''t deserve to breathe !!
:hug: :hug: to you for trying.
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I remember our first cat - my brothers mate stopped the farmer from drowning it and brought it to my mums on his motorbike inside pocket of his leather jacket ( i was pretty young about 4-5 ish . It was a little ginger kitten who lived to a grand old age - a full tom ,who did fight , had a bad eye at some point and had it removed , but it eventually opened again -i think he was around 14-15 ish when he died - he wasn''t run over but can''t remember what he died from .
I must have been around 14 then - Many , many , many ,years ago :rofl:
We had many more cats over the years as my mum also took in all the strays too and fed them all - we had 4 dogs at some point as well as 5-6 cats, a couple of rabbits and a tortoise !
My mums last cat outlived her and died about 2-3 years ago ( my brother carried on looking after it ) it was 22+ that we can remember - another that started off as a stray.
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Hiya,
You can't keep biting your tonge and after a phone call you may well have to scream at some peoples beliefs, habits, traditions etc etc etc. We all have to fiield these calls (well I don't 'cos I refuse to do the phone. I'm not a complete fool.) So phoning a fellow rescuer or writing on a formumnum is a safe way of venting our frustrations. As far as I'm concerened Julie can phone me anytime to scream about someone who' kept cats in cupboards/houses/basements' as long as it helps her and any other to calm down and get on with helping the cats. As cubercat say, you can't undo whats done, just do your best from this day forward - so to speak.
Angela
My spelling is perfect, it's the keyboard! :evillaugh:
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Any news on this girl? - I know I will see you tomorrow but sure others are wondering as well :)
Just an idea, but I don't start classes until 11am next Thursday so would be able to take her to Bredhurst (if they have a space) if it is any help. I know Trill is a special case and going from solitary to a pen is far from ideal - anyway, the offer is there :)
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I think she's number 2 to come in after a pair of cats found by an estate agent locked in an empty flat after a move. I took Midnight and Jackie to their new homes at the turkey farm today so fingers crossed Trill will be in before Christmas. :) Just need one more rehoming to free up a pen! :crossed:
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:Crazy: I hope it is being reported as a cruelty case - there is no way it was unintentional >:(
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I think it's being debated but we need to get the cat in before taking any action. It's an old cat who may not stand much of a chance in certain other rescues. ;)
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Sorry - I meant the ones that were left locked in the flat. What if they had decided to let the flat in the new year? - I dread to think how horrible it could have been :'(
I remember someone posting a couple of years ago about people moving away and leaving their cat shut in a rabbit hutch in the garden >:(
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If they've done a runner owing money we will never find them. :tired:
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I just think this is a really sad story all round - Poor puss , and poor lasy knowing she will never get to go home or probably see puss again. If she was paying a pet sitter for three years she must have cared , and it sounds like Violet was stuck between a rock and a hard place. I hope Puss finds a home to call his own for Christmas . :'(
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Such a sad story, and i have taken on a cat in a similar situation (another pure black oldie, although mine was a girl) - her owner had died and his daughter had been going round daily for months just feeding and doing the tray, turning an already hard to handle cat even worse - she spent most of her 7 weeks here living in a cardboard box - and that was after we retrieved her from under the pipework!) - he was of the generation that didn't do vets, and unfortunately had never been spayed, so she died of mammary cancer.
I can fully understand your frustrations behind the post Julie, i am glad that since changing rescue I don't have to deal with phone calls or e-mails, it is so incredibly hard, but fortunately we do have the forum with other rescue people who can understand and help us through some of the frustrations we have to deal with. Good luck with this little boy.
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I too feel so sorry for this poor cat and I hope its all warm and cosy fro christmas.
I dont think I could work for a rescue when you hear all these sad sad stories and want to help them all and know its impossible. You all know my story with Margaret, Rainbow and Duffy. Thanks to this wonderful forum Rainbow and Duffy are going to be spending christmas in their lovely new home with people who care and cuddle them. I did feel though as I was in a no win situation. Whilst Margaret was alive I didnt feel I could take the cats and she didnt want to give them up as they were her 'babies'. The fact that they were in my opinion begining to turn feral (or maybe they just really didnt like me ;)) worried me. When Margaret died and there were no rescues with room I was in a total panic. Im just so grateful to Michelle, Michelle and Rick for the way everything turned out.
love
Tab